u/Inside_Response_4272

It's Hey all, this is a throwaway.

I'm a 20(M) who about a year ago got involved with some bad people my freshman year on campus. For the most part, this happened only in the dorms. During that time I was decently social, trying to talk with everyone on the dorm floor and trying to make plans with all of my perceived friends, including hanging out at the dining hall, going to the gym, etc.

About a year ago today, I receive a no contact order out of the blue. It was strange to me because I had hardly interacted with this person apart from hi and bye. The only extensive thing that I think had occurred was me asking her to watch my stuff briefly while I fix my bike (even then it happened in a very public space and she had said sure)

Four weeks pass since the NCO and I get an email back from the office saying that an investigation is unlikely to be charged and the claims are for the most part unsubstantiated during their preliminary review. It had alleged that I was stalking people and entering bathrooms to stare at people, which was crazy because that didn't happen (never even saw any of the suspected people outside of the dorm areas and hadn't entered any bathroom with prior knowledge of who is in there. Plus it's also worth mentioning that the dorm only had gender-inclusive restrooms on my floor, and I had gone to the one that was closest to my dorm only) They had specified that the letter was only on an educational basis and not disciplinary in anyway, emphasizing how it would not be on my academic record. I was relieved and for a year nothing had come of this case again until I receive a notification from a club that I was in about these accusations and without due process they had removed me.

This organization claims that they had received this information from credible sources around campus, which is why they had decided to go the way that they did. It's also extremely strange to me considering that I had good relations with nearly every member (so much so that we were hanging outside of club activities) Regardless, they are now spreading this information to people within my life (such as other organizations or mutual friends of individual officers)

I have forwarded this information to offices around campus, including the overarching office for student organizations. Other than that, I'm unsure about what else to do, especially considering that the university seemingly stopped the matter then and there. These losses have had tangible proof of losses (such as me having to withdraw from a class after the drop date, consistent therapy sessions since receiving the no finding verdict, etc.)

If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it. Thank you.

TLDR - People (girl students) accused me of stalking and monitoring them around the dorm area. Preliminary review came back negative and no investigation or disciplinary action would occur. Other students around campus have caught wind of this and spread it around, leading to tangible losses.

Hi all,

I recently posted on a different subreddit about this but I'm the subject of false rumors being spread around my university campus. This had occurred about one year ago but is now being brought up again.

Either a group of girls or one girl from my dorm hall last year are alleging that I had monitored them and followed them into all-gender bathrooms in the building, neither true (provable is a different problem) The issue here is that these girls are of significant social popularity as well (sorority girls for instance)

The university's official discrimination program got involved and did a preliminary review of the reports, resulting in nothing disciplinary. I got an email back from them detailing the allegations and they claimed that no investigation would occur at that time. However, my social circles and clubs have caught wind of this and have ostracized me from the groups.

I have been gathering evidence on interactions and policies and I got some information to make a case but I don't know if it is enough. Student support staff that I've talked with suggested filing a defamation case if possible but I don't have the funding for that and I'm still haunted with the possibility that there isn't enough evidence to prove anything.

Any advice would help. Thanks

Hello, I'll try to keep this brief.

I (20M) have been battling a year long fight with my university with allegations of stalking/monitoring others. These accusations were raised by a group of people and had been submitted to official office channels on campus.

Around a year ago, I received a letter detailing all the information about what had occurred. This was during the preliminary review, where they looked at the complaints and decided that there wasn't enough evidence to continue forward. It may be important to note that no disciplinary action or investigations had arisen from this. These allegations seemingly stopped there after there was no university finding and the letter was sent for educational purposes only.

Regardless, clubs and people around campus have caught wind of these allegations and now act as if they are true. I know I didn't engage in monitoring others, but being able to prove that is difficult. I've been relieved from clubs and people have begun distancing themselves from me, leading to a somewhat hostile university environment.

I'm unsure how to proceed forward. If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.