u/Insightful_Hare

First time posting on this subreddit, fair warning I do in fact have ROCD.

For some context I’ve liked this specific guy for about two months now. We’ve already confessed our feelings to eachother and are now in a stage of developing our relationship.

But I’ve learned the definition of limerence recently and I’m struggling on figuring out if what I’m experiencing for him is a regular intense crush or if I’m experiencing limerence. The idea of limerence itself gives me a lot of anxiety, and paired with my usual ROCD doubts, I’m nervous that what if I’m experiencing limerence and then it dissipates and then I no longer want to pursue or be with him.

ROCD itself is already difficult as I doubt if I even like him in the first place, but paired with this new specific obsession around limerence it’s been eating at me for a couple days.

Here are some things that make me worry it’s limerence:

• I often checked if he was online
• One time he didn’t reciprocate a compliment I gave him, I ended up overthinking and crying over it.
• I would wait for his responses
• Feel like I think about him often
• My overall maladaptive daydreams of us together. Can’t think of any more but if I do, I’ll update this post.

Any advice on ROCD, limerence and crushes will be greatly appreciated. This will pretty much be my only post on this topic so I can keep my peace and not constantly seek reassurance. ❤️

(Also posted on the OCD subreddit, though I provided more context in this one)

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted on this subreddit. If you’ve seen my past posts you would know I’ve struggled with POCD in the past (much better now.) But OCD isn’t kind, as you all know, and now I’ve been struggling with ROCD.

For some context I’ve liked this specific guy for about two months now. We’ve already confessed our feelings to eachother and are now in a stage of developing our relationship.

But I’ve learned the definition of limerence recently and I’m struggling on figuring out if what I’m experiencing for him is a regular intense crush or if I’m experiencing limerence. The idea of limerence itself gives me a lot of anxiety, and paired with my usual ROCD doubts, I’m nervous that what if I’m experiencing limerence and then it dissipates and then I no longer want to pursue or be with him.

ROCD itself is already difficult as I doubt if I even like him in the first place, but paired with this new specific obsession around limerence it’s been eating at me for a couple days.

Any advice on ROCD, limerence and crushes will be greatly appreciated. This will pretty much be my only post on this topic so I can keep my peace and not constantly seek reassurance. ❤️

Edit: Might also post to limerence subreddit!