u/Intelegence_Counter

I have known for a while that I am infertile and I absloutely hate it. I don't want to be so rude to people but I hate seeing people who talk about how happy they are to be child free when I would do anything to be fertile. I didn't have a choice and while I was born fertile I was born with a disorder that requires infertility to be cured (i.e. the cure to it makes one infertile), and while it's worse to be suffering with it, it's also horrible (no where near as bad but still horrific) to be infertile.

Truly all I want is to have a kid on my own that I can say is definitively mine and I will never have this. It makes me unusually sad, and while I no longer fit the dsm criteria for major depressive disorder, it still makes me extremely sad that I will never have children. I am Lesbian too so I know it is unusual for me to be sad about this but I see everyone growing up and having children and to me I cannot help but to be jealous. I will never have that, I will never have a child of my own that I can say is mine, I will never go through the struggles and positives of being pregnant and raising a child of my own.

It's absloutely heartbreaking, I would truly do anything to have children of my own, even if it significantly worsened my own life, but ultimately with the disorder I was born with the other option was death so I had no other choice than infertility. I truly wish my life could be different.

ando triste de mi familia y como ellos me tratan. algunas tenés recomendaciones de canciones en castellano de este subjecto? gracias

I am 20F and recently got out of a depression episode that lasted through my entire adolescence and also recently all but fully recovered from a disorder that lasted essentially from birth preventing me from living correctly. As such, for the first time I have a desire to fashion myself correctly and become prettier and dress more myself because the way I dressed before (t shirt or sweatshirt or sweater + sweatpants or a basic dress with or in the summer without leggings) is something that is no longer myself and reminds me of when I was depressed.

So, because of this I have been watching youtube a lot for outfit advice, but also for mannerism advice as I basically grew up on a screen and missed out on a lot of the essential subconsious things that most people learn as a teenager by growing up as a teenager.

In a lot of these videos, the women speak of "feminine energy", but it leaves me confused because to me it seems that a lot of what they refer to as "feminine energy" is essentially just letting others walk all over them. For example this one woman mentioned she regrets telling her bf to eat healthier because she was acting in her "masculine energy" when she did that. It seems very reaffirming of mysogynistic stereotypes and specifically those from the Anglo world, though many of these women assure that all men and women have both feminine and masculine energy and that women and men must balance it, so it is okay for women to be in their masculine energy sometimes - at work for example - but not other times.

Anyways, I want to get the perspective of other women on this. To me this sounds pseudoscientific but I want to know if any other women especially other feminist women have a different perspective on this.

Thank you all.