u/IntelligentWater2020

So I have a six millimeter overbite, open bite, overjet. I got braces taken off five years ago. And two years before my braces journey began, I do remember my orthodontist telling me I may need double jaw surgery in the future because the braces aren't going to be able to fix the structural problem with my teeth. I was 10 at the time, and obviously me and my mother were like, hell no, I'm never getting double jaw surgery.

Seven years later, I'm having jaw pain and sensitive teeth. I tell my original dentist this, and he tells me it's a bite problem and that he's going to refer me to the maxillofacial department. And I made a really stupid mistake and missed my consultation. I called them up immediately to explain the situation. I mistook the dates, and they told me that I was still on the waiting list, and that I should get a call after Christmas.
I called them after Christmas, and they tell me that I'm on the list, and there's not much more they can give me. I call them again six months later, and they tell me I'm on the list, but I'm no longer priority. And that's kind of how it's been because I missed the consultation. So I kind of understand I've probably been put at the back of the queue, and I'm going to wait a while.

I decide to call them a year later, a few days ago today, and they tell me I was actually discharged the day after the consultation was missed. So I haven't been on the list for one and a half years of waiting. Obviously, my main priority is to get myself back on the funnel.
So I go to the dentist I have currently and ask them if they can refer me. I explain my jaw issues again, how I only eat with my back teeth because when I close my mouth, none of my teeth touch except my very back last teeth. She says she thinks that we should try mouth guard first and that the hospital would want us to try conservative treatments beforehand.

However, I don't feel like there's any point in doing that because this is a structural issue. I remember the original dentist that referred me told me that because of the way that my bite is, there's a lot of pressure on my teeth and a lot of compensation, which is stressing out my jaw muscles and contributing to the pain, and that my teeth are basically going to wear out quicker than the average person's, which is why he thought it was serious enough to refer me.

My current dentist also said this, that she thinks because of my bite, my teeth or my jaw muscles are overcompensating, but she would like us to try a mouth guard first for like six months to a year and then see after that. I absolutely don't agree with that, and I can tell that she's not going to refer me. I'm really stressed out because I was not really willing to get double jaw surgery in the past, but as the years go by, I'm starting to see that I don't have much options here.
I do believe this is going to escalate as I get older, and I want to get the double jaw surgery as young as I can. I'm 20 now. I don't want to get it when I'm in my 30s or beyond because I want to be able to heal as quick as possible and retain nerve sensations because I saw the older you get, the more the nerve damage is to be permanent. Problem is, I don't currently I'm really broke so I feel like my options are thin at the moment. I don't really have enough money to go and find a private orthodontist consultation, and I'm worried to spend money on it just for the orthodontist to think they don't need to refer me. Same thing with finding another dentist.

I had a hygienist appointment today, and I asked her for her opinion on it, and she told me she definitely thinks I need to be referred to the hospital, and that I unfortunately will need to find an orthodontist to consult about this to try and get me a referral.

I don't even understand why my current dentist doesn't want to refer me because I personally feel it's very obvious that I need double jaw surgery. It's been mentioned for years, and it would just have made things so much easier if she just referred me. What would you do if you were in my position?

What should I do now to try and get a referral as quick as possible? Because I know even when I am referred, it's going to be years before I actually get the double jaw surgery. So I just want to get this done as quickly as possible so I can crunch the time, because I've already wasted a year and a half.

So I have a six millimeter overbite, open bite, overjet. I got braces taken off five years ago and two years before my braces journey began, I do remember my orthodontist telling me I may need double jaw surgery in the future because the braces aren't going to be able to fix the structural problem with my teeth. I was 10 at the time, and obviously me and my mother were like, hell no, I'm never getting double jaw surgery.

Seven years later, I'm having jaw pain and sensitive teeth. I tell my original dentist this, and he tells me it's a bite problem and that he's going to refer me to the maxillofacial department. And I made a really stupid mistake and missed my consultation. I called them up immediately to explain the situation. I mistook the dates, and they told me that I was still on the waiting list, and that I should get a call after Christmas.
I called them after Christmas, and they tell me that I'm on the list, and there's not much more they can give me. I call them again six months later, and they tell me I'm on the list, but I'm no longer priority. And that's kind of how it's been because I missed the consultation. So I kind of understand I've probably been put at the back of the queue, and I'm going to wait a while.

I decide to call them a year later, a few days ago today, and they tell me I was actually discharged the day after the consultation was missed. So I haven't been on the list for one and a half years of waiting. Obviously, my main priority is to get myself back on the funnel.
So I go to the dentist I have currently and ask them if they can refer me. I explain my jaw issues again, how I only eat with my back teeth because when I close my mouth, none of my teeth touch except my very back last teeth. She says she thinks that we should try mouth guard first and that the hospital would want us to try conservative treatments beforehand.

However, I don't feel like there's any point in doing that because this is a structural issue. I remember the original dentist that referred me told me that because of the way that my bite is, there's a lot of pressure on my teeth and a lot of compensation, which is stressing out my jaw muscles and contributing to the pain, and that my teeth are basically going to wear out quicker than the average person's, which is why he thought it was serious enough to refer me.

My current dentist also said this, that she thinks because of my bite, my teeth or my jaw muscles are overcompensating, but she would like us to try a mouth guard first for like six months to a year and then see after that. I absolutely don't agree with that, and I can tell that she's not going to refer me. I'm really stressed out because I was not really willing to get double jaw surgery in the past, but as the years go by, I'm starting to see that I don't have much options here.
I do believe this is going to escalate as I get older, and I want to get the double jaw surgery as young as I can. I'm 20 now. I don't want to get it when I'm in my 30s or beyond because I want to be able to heal as quick as possible and retain nerve sensations because I saw the older you get, the more the nerve damage is to be permanent. Problem is, I don't currently I'm really broke so I feel like my options are thin at the moment. I don't really have enough money to go and find a private orthodontist consultation, and I'm worried to spend money on it just for the orthodontist to think they don't need to refer me. Same thing with finding another dentist.

I had a hygienist appointment today, and I asked her for her opinion on it, and she told me she definitely thinks I need to be referred to the hospital, and that I unfortunately will need to find an orthodontist to consult about this to try and get me a referral.

I don't even understand why my current dentist doesn't want to refer me because I personally feel it's very obvious that I need double jaw surgery. It's been mentioned for years, and it would just have made things so much easier if she just referred me. What would you do if you were in my position?

What should I do now to try and get a referral as quick as possible? Because I know even when I am referred, it's going to be years before I actually get the double jaw surgery. So I just want to get this done as quickly as possible so I can crunch the time, because I've already wasted a year and a half.

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