u/Intelligent_Sand8995

Hi, I’m a first year student female and my planned roommate arrangement for second year didn’t work out at the last moment.( She ditched me)

Most people already seem to have finalized their roommates, so I’m trying here in case anyone else is in the same situation and still looking for one.

Feel free to DM me if you’re also searching for a roommate or your plans changed recently :)

Desp times.

Or just want to hear anyone in my situation or have been in comments.(loner bitch)

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Hi, I (19F) study at a top institution, and my boyfriend (20M) is at the same place.

We’ve been together for about 6+ months. The relationship is genuinely good — we care about each other, communicate well, and he has said he sees me as a long-term partner.

Until recently, I honestly hadn’t thought too far ahead. I was just going with the flow and enjoying the relationship.

But a recent conversation changed that a bit. He was talking about his sister’s marriage and mentioned that ideally it should align with family expectations — similar background, community, and even used the word “legacy.” He also said that if she had a boyfriend, he would support it, but since she doesn’t, family matching makes sense.

That made me pause and think more seriously.

We come from quite different family backgrounds. His family is highly educated and professionally established (mostly doctors) and rich, with strong expectations. My family is more modest in comparison economically and socially, and I value my family’s respect a lot.

He tells me that “our situation is different” and that these differences are not a problem. But I feel like he may not have fully thought about this relationship that far yet — and honestly, neither had I until now.

After that conversation, I started thinking more from my perspective, and I feel like I should talk about it at some point. As far as I know he may choose me but he will prioritize his family over me. If I don’t, I might be the one who ends up regretting it later.

Would really appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who’ve been in similar situations.

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