u/Intrepid-Estimate-97

I(30f) am dating a fantastic man(35). He does so much for me, and I try hard to be the best partner I can. He is financially more comfortable than me and enjoys the provider role. We don’t live together and only get 3 nights a week together. He happily does endless chores to help me as in physical house/property chores, does my weekly grocery shopping with me(and pays), sends me DoorDash when he knows I’ve had a long day, etc…. We eat out together a lot but it tends to be inbetween errands type casual. He’s a homebody and while I am too most the time, I enjoy getting a little dressed up and going out once every week or two…. Which we did a bit in the start of our relationship but we’ve hit that “comfortable” stage. And he works incredibly hard so I feel bad asking for more from him. How do I ask him to take me on dates without sounding unappreciative for the things he does? Or sound like kinda silly for asking?

Hi everyone!

New to UP. Looking for after school activities for a 12(girl) and 15(boy) year old. Would love the type of things where they could go at same time in different groups or back to back.

The YMCA on pearl looks promising, but the websites a bit hard to understand so may need to stop in. Going to look at the UP intermediate school clubs. Wondering about any gyms that do like a kids fitness. And non school teen sport programs(the fall sports don’t really appeal to them). Would really consider any sort of activity, just trying to keep them busy instead of home alone while parents are finishing work.

Thanks!

Hi all.

I left a relationship a year ago leaving behind step kids. 6 months later my ex broke no contact, and we’ve been trying. I’ve seen so much change and improvement on his end. I have not been back in the kids life as we both agree we aren’t there yet, nor have I been to the house he stayed in when I left. Although he’s invited me.

When we were originally together BM was getting supervised visits weekly with the kids. She’s since asked for more custody and is proving to be clean from her long term drug issue. She’s staying with her parents who are very involved with the kids. I found out through my partners phone(yes I went through the phone, please judge me) that BM is staying at the house we had together with the kids occasionally. It seems it’s only on the nights my partner is with me. But still the kids stay at her parents house all the time. Some of the texts from her are flirty and oversharing, but he seems to always shut it down.

Im not sure if this should be a major red flag that he hasn’t told me that’s happening. Or am I just feeling insecure since that used to be my house. I am questioning my choice to go back to a man with kids with things like this happening….