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Honestly. I am exhausted with my husband's family.

My husband and I haven't had one day to ourselves in over a year.

We took a weekend away. Hired care, made sure everything was covered.

LO called everyone yesterday about how we abandoned him, left him alone, with no food, and we are trying to kill him.

Cue family calling, and freaking out. Most of these people are 5 mins away. They could drive over and check on LO themselves. See there is help, and we covered all the bases. Instead they go to instantly calling us, screaming about elder abuse.

My favorite, while explaining the situation to a cousin, was well you could just ask for help....ya, we have, you people always flake at the last minute.

When she took care of her MIL (wheelchair bound from a stroke). I was absolutely there for her. Need someone to care for her for a weekend break...that was me. Need someone to call at odd hours to vent. Again me. I could say need someone for a lot of things...and that person was me.

Now its my turn to care for an in law. Do I get the same support? Absolutely not. There is no offer to come give me a break...because as she said when I asked, she has done her time, and isnt doing this again. She calls and asks how LO is doing, and I legit can't get two sentences out of my mouth before she is talking over me, about her job, or kids, or cutting her grass.

I am seriously worried that when the time comes, all of our parents care will fall on me...and I legit dont know if I have in me to do this again.

Hanging at my trailer. The park has a band coming tonight. My neighbor just asked me if I want to pre-game with them.

Um my plan was to go, take my free drink, hang for a bit. Band any good I would buy another drink and stay for a second drink.

Pre gaming never entered into my thoughts.

Are we still aiming to get hammered on a night out?

When we stated this journey with my.inlaw, I gave my husband my 3 hard outs. As in LO goes into a facility if x,y,z happens.

Those where my hard outs from being a caregiver to a grandparent with cancer.

This is a whole different journey. I knew it would be different, I read 36 hour day, I know what to expect.

What I didn't expect is to be sexuality assaulted in my own home. I can not be anywhere near LO without him grabbing my boobs or squeezing my ass, or trying to grab my face for a kiss.

This wasnt one my hard outs...but I think it is now.

Wish me luck explaining it my husband.

We took LO's keys October last year. And within 2 weeks he forgot he was mad about it, because we took him anywhere he wanted to go...and our lovely neighbor comes over each day to see of LO wants to go anywhere.

On Monday, he went to bed at 5pm, got up at 6pm...put his boots on...and lost his shit because he needed to go to work, and cant find his keys....and now everyday is a pretend hunt for his keys.

I really thought the need for his keys so he could go to work was just sun downing. But its now 4 days later...and its very important he finds the keys because he needs to drive to x,y,z places.

How do you all deal with this...just keep pretending to hunt for keys...try and redirect (hasnt worked so far).

So my kid (23) is currently working out of town in a Indian reservation. Lots of strays, and its hot, so first day out there she was making sure they had water...and then worried they dont get fed, so bought dog food and dishes, and now she is feeding them daily.

I feel horrible, but I told her to stop feeding them. Water yes, food no. She is only there for 2 more weeks at the most, and I worry they will start relying on her as a consistent food source.

Maybe I am over thinking it. An old boss once fed a stray cat once...and cat just kept coming back. Both she and I would feel horrible to know that they came looking for food after she left.

Edit: the reservation is not accessible by road. Its train or flight. There are no rescues up there.

My LO's family knows he can't make decisions on his own anymore...but my SIL called today, and asked for 11k. LO was all set to it to her. And she was walking him through the step by step process when my husband walked in and realized what was happening and put and end to that.

This whole thing in general is exhausting. Knowing family is using it to get money...is just adding to the exhausting.

My sister finally got her 8 year old to ride a bike. So they were out on a ride last night, and sis decides to show her kid how to do a wheelie....except it went wrong, she now has broken and cracked ribs, and a broken collar bone.

Really wanted to ask her what she was thinking, but remembered when my daughter got into skateboarding. I was trying to show her a trick, and ended up with a sprained ankle.

I want to hear your stories.

Care for an inlaw. He is very much sun downing tonight. He just asked me if I am the lady friend he told my husband he wants...and did husband get me for him?

Was so hard to keep a straight face, and explain that no I am not his "lady friend" in a way that wouldn't upset him, but still firmly let him know I am absolutely not a call girl, or prostitute.

Texted my husband and asked him when he became my pimp. We had a good laugh about it.

Mine was show up for a 9:30am interview. Interviewer hadn't even showed up to work yet.

10am rolls around, Im explaining to the receptionist that I'm leaving, when he comes in. Points at me, and says, sorry I'm late, family emergency, follow me to my office.

We sit down, he picks up my resume, and starts reading it to me, or maybe outloud to himself. If I tried to talk to expand on what he was reading he told me to be quiet.

He finished reading my resume, and told me I looked promising, and they would let me know within a week if I got moved into the next round. Literally did not ask me a single question.

Weirdly they called me 2 days later for another interview, I passed because that whole experience, and turns out I was right. A friend I made later worked for them.

Interviewer was the owner on a power trip. Wanted the best qualified person he could find, that would also let him walk all over them.

My LO threatened to punch me out last nigh (his words) because I refused to make him a second dinner, and offered a snack instead.

In my shock I told him to try, but I would hit back. (Not my best moment), and he basically ran away from me.

I need advice on how to deal with threat of violence. Because Im all for redirecting, or changing the topic, but that doesnt always work. Amd I dont think my response to his threats of violence was particularly helpful. As he ran away.

Has anyone put a GPS tracking app on their parents/loved ones phone?

We live on a farm. One of my LO's favorite things to do is walk the fields and just check on things. And I am all for that. It keeps him active, and he feels like he is being productive and helping.

But he is late 80's. I am getting seriously worried that he may trip and fall, and we will be running a search party for him. As he carries his phone with him everywhere, I thought there must be an app for this.

I know life 360 is one. But Im wondering if anyone here uses something different. I know I can just look this up, but hoping for real world experiences.