Small argument turned into breakup am i wrong?
17M - 9 Months
Every time I argue with my girlfriend about questionable things she does it somehow turns into me apologizing anyway.
This time it started because I brought up something shed said months ago that she thought it was hot watching men play basketball. It hurt when she said it and i told her again that it still hurted me(Ik everyone can have uncontrollable feelings and smth but saying this to her bf is smth else she also said other things back then like i like tall men and men older than her which i am not and im just as tall as her). She immediately said she never said that. So after going back and forth i pulled up the actual message abt the basketball subject of her saying "Idk i got rlly pulled with it tf"
Instead of addressing what she'd actually said, she latched onto the fact that i said that she thinks they are hot and attractive in the other message even tho both msgs sounded just the same for me just in a diff context. This comment of her saying that idk i got rlly pulled was like 4 months ago i couldnt remember every single word. I told her I wasn't claiming to remember a conversation 1:1 from four months ago, that I never said it was that exact message, and that what she said still lines up with what I remember. She wouldn't drop it and just kept circling back to the wording.
In the end she said she's done with me and broke up after going circles around it she kept defending herself claiming i was blaming her for nothing as always..even tho i just wanted to clear things up for myself at the start. Out of smth small that hurted me back then it turned to smth that big.. but ngl since the start of our relationship with every weird thing she does when i confront her always ends up with its a joke and then in the end i am the evil one who hurted her and i always feel confused ashell after every argument then i get the cold treatment for days... That she broke up with me that easily tho after all our plans moments and everything weve been through ending it in a cold "thanks ig" is hurting me i cant think clearly since it was an hour ago so there are probably alot of holes or grammar mistakes in what ive told and i did use AI to refine my words since my heads all around the place sorry abt that. In the end was i really wrong or was she the one in the wrong i am scared ive lost someone who waa the dreamgirl ive seached for bcs of my stupidity. I already left someone back then who i really loved and was genuinely the perfect fit i never forgot abt the mistakes and pain i went through realizing i destroyed it myself.. if that's the case again this would be even bigger for me since we rlly had plans and worked for them