u/Jackbelieves25

Looking for travel buddies to see the Former Soviet Union

Hey guys.

I'm Jack, 28 years old from Ireland. A keen lover of history, food and nature I plan to someday travel the former Soviet Union like in Ukraine,Georgia, Armenia, Russia, Estonia and Belarus. Etc .

I plan to see historical sites like in Brest, Kursk, Kyiv and Minsk.

I speak a little Russian and Spanish if there are some Spanish speakers out there!

If you are interested in doing the same thing as me, why not go together? I think it would make the journey more fun to share it with someone. Right now I don't know many who would like to travel for history and nature.

If you're interested, feel free to message me.

Looking forward to chatting!

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u/Jackbelieves25 — 4 days ago

Raised by a Covert Narrcisst Father

I grew up with a narcissistic father who never showed me much love, affection, or attention. He never really talked to me and talking was never something that was free flowing in his house. Though he showed more interest, attention and talked more with visitors to the house.

He controlled me by telling me I have to play these sports, help him and he shamed me if I wanted to do something that he didn't approve of. He saw me as an extension of himself. He is like a grown up child. I felt I helped him more than he helped me. I helped him on the farm while he didn't even talk to me at the table. He verbally abused me at times too when I didn't do something to his liking.

I don't live with him anymore. I don't want to too as it's painful. He still doesn't apologise and probably doesn't see much wrong with what he did. "You should of seen what the teachers and my parents were like." He doesn't take responsibility for his actions.

I moved out of my family home which I can say was disfuncional. No one supports each other. Everyone walks on eggshells around my father.

I expressive write, draw, meditate and use CBT to undo the damage he has done.

It is working but I still feel this toxic shame, sadness, anxiety, hopelessness and depression each week.

How can I fix this?

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u/Jackbelieves25 — 10 days ago

Raised by a Covert Narrcisst Father

I grew up with a narcissistic father who never showed me much love, affection, or attention. He never really talked to me and talking was never something that was free flowing in his house. Though he showed more interest, attention and talked more with visitors to the house.

He controlled me by telling me I have to play these sports, help him and he shamed me if I wanted to do something that he didn't approve of. He saw me as an extension of himself. He is like a grown up child. I felt I helped him more than he helped me. I helped him on the farm while he didn't even talk to me at the table. He verbally abused me at times too when I didn't do something to his liking.

I don't live with him anymore. I don't want to too as it's painful. He still doesn't apologise and probably doesn't see much wrong with what he did. "You should of seen what the teachers and my parents were like." He doesn't take responsibility for his actions.

I moved out of my family home which I can say was disfuncional. No one supports each other. Everyone walks on eggshells around my father.

I expressive write, draw, meditate and use CBT to undo the damage he has done.

It is working but I still feel this toxic shame, sadness, anxiety, hopelessness and depression each week.

How can I fix this?

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u/Jackbelieves25 — 11 days ago
▲ 5 r/LifeAfterNarcissism+1 crossposts

How to Heal from A Covert Narcissist Father

I grew up with a narcissistic father who never showed me much love, affection, or attention. He never really talked to me and talking was never something that was free flowing in his house. Though he showed more interest, attention and talked more with visitors to the house.

He controlled me by telling me I have to play these sports, help him and he shamed me if I wanted to do something that he didn't approve of. He saw me as an extension of himself. He is like a grown up child. I felt I helped him more than he helped me. I helped him on the farm while he didn't even talk to me at the table. He verbally abused me at times too when I didn't do something to his liking.

I don't live with him anymore. I don't want to too as it's painful. He still doesn't apologise and probably doesn't see much wrong with what he did. "You should of seen what the teachers and my parents were like." He doesn't take responsibility for his actions.

I moved out of my family home which I can say was disfuncional. No one supports each other. Everyone walks on eggshells around my father.

I expressive write, draw, meditate and use CBT to undo the damage he has done.

It is working but I still feel this toxic shame, sadness, anxiety, hopelessness and depression each week.

How can I fix this?

Love to hear!

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u/Jackbelieves25 — 11 days ago