My boyfriends older brother is a complete freeloader and idk wtf to do
I 20f have been living with my bf 26m and his older brother 31m for a little less than a year. His brother has been unemployed since before I moved in and has been lying about putting job applications in, (for context he's a felon that's still on probation until next year until as of recently he is likely going back to prison for breaking probation in 2 months) with the amount of money my bf and I make we would be financially stable if his brother wasn't a liability on us. My bf has an autoimmune disease and is constantly sick but refuses to take off work sometimes because he's worried about money. I myself have epilepsy and cannot go to work when I have a seizure so I have no choice but to miss days. My bf has been neglecting his health and it's just getting worse. On top of it his brother has told him he's just overreacting when he's sick. We have to buy groceries about 2x a week because his brother goes through the food so quickly we usually get him a pack of ramen, 2 loaves of bread a jar of mayo, bologna and other stuff that should stretch more than a week. He's a slob and I'm constantly cleaning up his messes in the bathroom and kitchen (I'm talking levels of cleaning up after a toddler messes along with messes from his absolutely horrible hygiene) on top of all of this our landlord is his godfather and they have no other living family besides their sisters that don't talk to them because of his brothers charges and making sure their kids are safe (idk if I can specify what they are but I'm pretty sure anyone reading this can guess) I've thought about getting my own place but I don't want to leave my bf stranded taking care of him and I don't think I have the ability to save for that. I haven't completely lost my shit on him yet but I am getting so close especially with his comments telling my bf he is overreacting about being sick. I have flipped out once when he left dishes in the sink for days on end because I always end up cleaning them, I left them there in protest and he never did them so I chucked his saucepan of spaghetti into his room and he just whined to my bf that I was being mean. My boyfriend can't stand him either but again he's his only family and gets defensive when it comes to him because he's autistic but high functioning (I am as well) My parents have reached out and offered us to come live with them but we both have good jobs that we can't afford to leave. My boyfriend also doesn't want to move because he's afraid of instability and change. It's getting to the point that me flipping out on him is inevitable if this continues especially now that I'm working 3rd shift and having to keep up with the house and it's hard not to burn myself out.
Ps. Apologies for the giant post but I am livid with this situation