u/Jadhsy

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My GF of 6 years met a guy, who was supposed to be just friend.

They were texting extreme long messages, with a lot of emojis even at 6AM or in midnight.

I confronted her about that and she reasaured me he's just a friend, that I shouldn't be worried.

She met him couple of times, because they had similar hobby - bycicle downhill.

We discussed him a lot of times, but everytime I told her my worries and to stop the messaging because they were building relationship behind my back, she told me not to worry anything.

She even told me she doesn't like bikers, because the relationships won't last, she only loves me - I was told.

She acted weirdly, covering her phone, taking it to shower, to toilet.

And at last, when I returned from a male trip, which I had planned year ago, she told me she has feelings for him.

That was 8th august.

I initiated discussion, we were talking hours what went wrong in our relationship, and she told me she lost feelings for me, and she needs time.

I cried a lot, I proposed to change myself, I tried to communicate and solve the problem, but everything was hopeless. She was dating him even when I was trying to solve the problem. He invited her to a river cruise 12th august.

I was really devastated, that I was living next a person who is not loyal to me and is actively dating other person.

She moved from me two days ago to a small apartment and went with this guy on a bicycle trip to Austria yesterday, I have seen it on strava, they have photos together.

I am really devastated, we were together for 6 years and she threw it away for a guy she knows from 7th july. So little more than month.

I really don't know what to do now, if I should jump straight into new relationship or let my heart heal.

(just another Alex Tuch post)