u/Jay201181

Hat einer von euch erfolgreich euer Geld zurück bekommen wegen dem Fanblast Skandal und könntet ihr sagen, was für Schritte / an welchen Stellen ihr euch gewandt?

The first time she "left" was last year at this time (May 2025). She came back 3 months later and we rekindled but only under certain conditions (she needs a lot of security).

Now we are 11 weeks (!!!) on NC. Well, its isn’t actually even NC - It's a long story but she said she wanted to think about her

"mindset and her attitude", she said that she wanted to think it a little more through, the last 5% as she asked me 11 weeks ago how things are with me.

She said that after I made some major

and positive changes about myself, my anxious nervous system and the way I want to move forward with myself, my outlook, etc. (she acknowledged it and said she's impressed. After she felt and saw my change she wanted to think about her side. "The last 5%" - it has been 11 weeks now. I'm terrified, I have no idea what's going on, I asked her 5 days after she said that she wanted to thnk (I know, way to early but my nervous system was still the old one) and if she has been thinking things through yet and all I got was "❤️". That was 11 weeks ago!

No more texts, no more signs, just radio silence. As I was working on myself she regularly checked in on me, asked how I was doing, asked how my "self-therapy" was going. She even said "I hope you found out what the problem was, for yours and our sake". She was really positive and then she said she needed time to think about her mindset and attitude. I never would have guessed that 11 weeks along and crickets. You guys don't know what I've been through.

It feels like the second time of heartbreak (like last year) - even though she didn't officially leave but I feel like she's gone. I also don't want to text because I asked once already. We love each other. Deeply. What's going on? I've been asking myself for the last 11 weeks - what's going on? She knows my nervous system is not like hers, but I've been improving and working on myself. She knows I worry about her as well. She just left me alone with everything, I feel like I had the second round of heartbreak because of her and I don't even know how things are going to go moving forward - complete radio silence! Before all of that we had a bad few weeks and some distance (it was needed). I'm just a huge, sad, confused heartbroken question mark.

Avoidants: What is happening?