u/JealousArticle3018

I went to a school conference in May and got pretty drunk at a kickback with some friends when this guy shows up and starts coming onto me really strongly. He put his hand down my pants, played w my panties, kissed my shoulder, and kissed me on my mouth. He also got hard right in front of me and another girl. I told him I wasn’t interested and that I had a boyfriend, and he followed that up with questions about my relationship and how it must have not been that serious since we had only been together for a month at that point and how cheating wasn’t anything with that little of time being in a relationship. I feel guilty because I kept talking to him even after he did these things and I worry that I was flirty with him and encouraged him to keep talking to me. I do get pretty tactless when I’m drunk and have been overtly flirty with guys… but I told this guy that I had a boyfriend and cheating was not something I was going to do no matter how long I had been together with my boyfriend. I feel like I led him on in some ways and made him feel comfortable doing those things to me. I also felt pretty upset with myself for not being clearer and I felt like it was doing a disservice to my bf, who was very worried about me cheating while I was out of town. I feel like being SA’d is cheating in this case because of how I did not come across clearly enough that I was not interested. I also just feel really guilty about it all.