u/Jellyfish4549

Saw a post yesterday - a guy was abusing a dog, hitting the dog with a metal rod brutally. It was kinda gorey. I sent the post to my bestfriend. Wanted to discuss what we could do in such situations - whether we could call some number for such things, report it online somewhere and hoping someone must have done that already since the post already had the phone number of the guy who abused the dog. But then again I was not really seriously planning to call anyone , it was just a discussion.

Now this is where the topic gets diverted. She replies to what I said and then says "but you shouldn't be empathizing with the dog, non vegetarians ( I eat meat ) cannot empathize, there's no justification, end of argument". She is a vegetarian.

I tell her that it's really rude of her to say that I have no empathy, she argues back and we do this for 2 days. I keep telling her that if she thinks that then it's fine but she can't just say that to my face because that's very rude. Then she goes on to say "I'll say whatever I want, It's my opinion".

Then I replied to whatever she said. She starts this another conversation of what happened in her day etc. sending me 8-10 messages as if we never argued to begin with. I tell her to at least tell me that she won't say rude things like that again and to acknowledge that it was her fault. She goes on like "Of course I won't. You're full of ego". I reply " of course I am ! If you say something hurtful I expect you to take it back considering you're a good friend of mine". She denies again and I block her. Well she also blocked me after that. Idk what to do here.
EDIT: she is okay with watching gore, that's why I sent her that ,stop assuming.

hn nhi ayenge marks pr chul hai ki tukke shi hue hain ya nhi

They have metallic stuff in them soo idk..
What about oversized t shirts?
btado yr kl hi exam hai prso btane ka koi fyda nhi

( I wrote this once for someone else but I felt like the advice was so good that I needed to save this for myself, you might like it too )

It's a reminder to keep yourself your priority -

See, You have a long life ahead of you - If you don't take your stand right now for yourself, no one in the future ever will.
Yk my parents are old fashioned too, I've been slapped and hit a lot of times. I'm myself wasting a lot of time rn instead of working for my future. I won't have to fight for a looong while but one day I will have to and I don't want to lose my opinions in this world where no one actually cares. You are the only one who can bring the change. You have to figure out the earning part on your own, sorry I am not of much help.

Imagine, 10 years down the line, you have 2 kids. A loving partner that seems to love you more than anything.

You pick up your partner's phone and you see a notification that shouldn't be there. Text from a girl you don't know about. You think "she must be a coworker"

Weeks later you see his phone lying open, he went to shower. You check his Instagram.

You see a series of texts that shouldn't be there. *He's cheating*.

What will you do? Stay in a marriage like that since you have kids to take care of? You wouldn't want to ruin your children's life? right? But you do know your partner is cheating.. You don't earn so you won't be able to do anything for your children. Maybe your parents won't support you having a divorce, so you'll keep silent?

You are just thinking about these things and how your partner can even do such things when he comes back from his shower. You ask him and he slaps you. What are you gonna do? You chose to marry him. Have his kids that you can't even financially support. Heck you can't even support yourself. You are a sobbing mess and all alone. You tell your mother this and she says" to kya hogya smjha apne pati ko".

Marriage is not just about " akeli nhi rehna chahti future mein aur parents ko dukhi nhi krna". If his parents are traditional and it's an arranged marriage there are huge chances you will have to have a kid. Yeah you could have the want to have a kid. But was it even a choice? If the guy not once said anything about how you will have to suffer because you'll be the only one leaving the family then what worth is he?

((((I'm not saying this all will happen. I'm not saying your husband will be a cheater or that he will abuse you or take his parent's side if you ever get into a fight. But don't you see babe?, you are giving so much for that single thought you keep having out of fear," what if my choice turns out good?". What do you get in return? Tell me a single thing you get that the groom doesn't get? And now tell yourself all the things your groom gets to have while you suffer silently.

You could have an absolutely perfect marriage with perfect kids but are you prepared if it falls apart? ))))

Yk what's my deepest, strongest fear? It is that I won't be able to earn for myself, I'll give in to my parent's opinions, never form my own opinions, have an arranged marriage and make my kids my own life. Become the same person my mom is. Get abused by a man who calls me his wife. I fucking at this time in my life (I'm 18) can't choose to wear what I want and what if that so called husband of mine tells me this too? Fear of having to follow traditions I don't even believe in. Fear of having no support when I am saying something correct.
I'll end it with the title, Are you really gonna stoop so low?( no chatgpt btw)