AITAH for refusing to buy toilet paper
I (25 F) and my Bf live with my parents. We pay rent of course. My parents set the amount of $80 for rent, $80 for electric and I pay the full $80 of internet. My bf pays $80 for rent and $80 for electric. Then we give them am extra $200. This totals out to be $600 a month between both of us. Before you say that is such a low amount, there is a total of 10 people living in this house. My parents, my bf and I, my disabled brother, my sister and sister in law with their 3 kids. We all pay our portion. My parents are retired and get checks in the mail, my brother collects checks aswell. The 3 kids can't work yet. My sister, sister in law, my bf and I are the only 4 working.
Downstairs in the basement is renovated for my sister, sister in law and the 3 kids. They rarely come upstairs and have their own kitchen, bathroom and bedrooms down there.
Upstairs is my parents, my brother, my bf and I.
I mentioned how much I pay because the $200 I pay extra is me being generous aswell as for using up their stuff. I normally would use their toilet paper, paper plates and towels, Reynolds wrap and plastic wrap. I only go into 3 rooms in the house which is kitchen to cook, bathroom and our room.
My dad complained so much about us using up his paper plates and bowls that I went out and bought my own plastic ones that I could wash and reuse. Then for the past like 2 months we have been arguing about the toilet paper. My dad told me to buy it because he is tired if buying it. I told him that I am tired of buying things too but its a necessity and that I give them extra so they could afford it. He yelled at me saying he doesn't care and that we are going through it too much and told me to buy some. I ignored him until he decided to be petty and remove all the toilet paper from the bathroom but 1 at a time, and hid it in his room. My mother genuinely doesn't care who buys it and doesn't necessity tell me to buy it. She just shakes her head and says it's ridiculous. My poor mother was the one who it would run out on and she'd be stranded in the bathroom without tp.
Since he was being petty, I did buy toilet paper. I bought it 2 packs of 4 and hid them in my room. Then took 1 roll to the bathroom and hid it so that only my bf and I could use it. I told my mom if she ever ran out of to she could use my hidden one, but as for my dad I really don't care if he gets stranded without tp if he wants to act so petty about it.
Later my dad yelled at me and said why we haven't bought any yet and I told him I did but it's for only my bf and I. He got furious and said I need to contribute it to the household and not restrict it for only us. I told him if the problem is that we are going through tp too fast then us having our own will slow it down and make my parents responsible for paying what they use. Because like I said, the only people who use the upstairs bathroom is my parents, my brother, my bf and I. That means that my parents and brother is using up his tp fast and that is no longer our problem.
It's been about 2 months and my dad is still fighting me on this. I refuse to give in and pay for toilet paper because I know I give them $200 extra that they could use towards tp and I am not going to be stuck paying for it. If I were to buy tp for everyone, my dad would stop buying it and relay it onto me to do. He always has the mindset that I owe him everything because he adopted me, but that was his choice.
Now he is trying to fight me on Reynolds wrap and plastic wrap. I bought plastic wrap but forgot to buy Reynolds wrap for my use only so he can stop fighting me on that.
At this point, the only things my bf and I use in this household is electric, water, and access to our bedroom, the kitchen (which I clean after every use and have no conplaints on) and bathroom. We buy our own food, cleaner, etc.
I am more than likely going to keep hiding our tp and not share it but I know he is only getting angrier. He even threatened to kick me out over it. I know he keeps complaining about not having enough money but he gets about 2k a month combined of everyone else in the house on tops of whatever they get from their checks in the mail. I do plan to move out by summer of 2027 so we don't have much longer. Everytime he threatens me to move out, I start looking then he doesn't want me to and gets emotional. Not going to stop me this time, however I told him once I move out he will be at a $600 loss of income from us. He says he doesn't care but I don't think he really understands how thats going to impact him. Again, my mom is chill and she doesn't really see a problem with what I'm doing.
So aitah for bot giving in and sharing the tp with all
EDIT : My dad just spent $400 at yardsales on shit he swears he can flip and make money off of. I am not enabling his behavior. I pay my portion that was set up by both of them. Everyone contributes their half and they have more than enough to make the bills. My dad spends any money he can find. He pulls money we give our mom for bills from her purse to spend. He purchased his 6th broken down lawnmower and put it in a building and hasn't even had any plans to get to it just like he hasn't got over to the last 5 of them. Water = $300, electricity = $400, trash = $100, mortgage $650. Otherwise the rest is independent debt from their individual purchases.
EDIT 2 : Again, I do plan to move out. Moving from WV to TX is the plan as my bf is from TX. So we can't move out ASAP, it's going to take a while to relocate and transfer stuff. Like im getting my GED, we are both getting our drivers license and im paying of my insane medical debt. My bf and I make about 4k a month combined so we could move out somewheres nearby but that will slow us down to our end goal. And no I am not going to pay more bc we make more. Id I gave them more, that procrastinated us from moving to TX into an apartment. I refuse to live paycheck to paycheck with my parents because then I will never get anywheres and they will rely on my money and I will rely on their living arrangements which is not what we want. Also, the reason they set rent low is because of the amount of people in the household and how much the household costs. The only thing I didnt add to the above list of how much stuff costs is how much my parents mailed checks are because I do not know and my parents owe a ton on credit cards. Which independent debt is not our responsibility. Its like when you rent and divide the rent between all people. Of course it gets lower.