I am happy, proud and scared s***less. She has completed a 90 day program, which is amazing. She will face a lot of challenges and temptations when they cut her loose.
I am trying so hard to be optimistic.
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Hank went to the vet last weekend for his annual physical. Last year, he weighed 34.5 lbs. Vet told us he needed to lose 1/2 a pound. This year, Hank weighs in at 33 lbs even. Now vet says he needs to lose "at least a pound."
Hank is really not overweight. Is it just that vets are so used to telling folks to slim down their dogs that it becomes their default?
He wants to sit on my lap, but I am trying to finish a project.
And I got stung by a spicy fly, and now I don't feel well.
I trauma dumped last night. Yet this community was kind and supportive. I wish I could say I feel better about my situation with my sister. But I do feel grateful for the support. Thank you.
My sister has been in treatment for 60 days now. She is currently in intensive therapy to get to the root of her drinking.
She is asking to talk to me about our parents. The thing is, we had crappy parents. In simple terms, our dad was unable to express any emotion, so when he did, it was anger, and our mother had untreated borderline personality disorder.
I went to years of therapy because of what happened to me growing up. Therapy was very painful, but also very helpful. This is a part of my life that I have put behind me.
But, I can't reopen these wounds to help her. And I am angry she seems to expect it of me.
And, there is also my issue of feeling very used by her. I know I need to find a way past this, but I am still healing myself.
I am not able to be there for her yet. Right now, I don't even know if I want to have a relationship with her after she finishes treatment.
I really feel like a shit human right now.
It's deshed day for Hank. Normally he loves his groomer, but I think he got the vibe that today he was getting more than a mani-pedi.
My Q is my sister. She is an alcoholic. She has done horrible things to me and my husband. She has stolen from us, lied to us so many times, and even threatened us with a gun. I know I am co-dependent, but I cannot help but love her.
I am working on forgiving her. I know I need to do this for myself.
But the hard truth is I cannot trust her. And I doubt that will ever change.
She is in rehab again. She has been there for 60 days. She is doing well. I am unbelievably happy she is doing so well.
But, I don't trust her. I accept this truth about myself. Now I need to learn to accept the consequences of this truth.