u/Jobololoz

Hello everyone, I’d simply like to talk and see if some people feel the same way as I do. I am a professional musician and I have lost many friendships with people in the same field. I am proud of what I do and I think I have talent, but I also feel very alone because I chose a different path.

I’ve reached a crossroads in my life where I’m not yet where I want to be, and where it’s too early to give up. I believe I will succeed because I am determined to keep going. I have a few friends, but I feel like I attract a lot of jealousy, and that makes me sad because I believe in meaningful, genuine relationships. Also, I’ve reached a point where I have confidence in myself, and this can be perceived as arrogance.

I’m used to not sharing my successes and dimming my own light so that others feel less uncomfortable. It hurts me to know that success and hard work can sometimes push certain people away.

Hello everyone, I’d simply like to talk and see if some people feel the same way as I do. I am a professional musician and I have lost many friendships with people in the same field. I am proud of what I do and I think I have talent, but I also feel very alone because I chose a different path.

I’ve reached a crossroads in my life where I’m not yet where I want to be, and where it’s too early to give up. I believe I will succeed because I am determined to keep going. I have a few friends, but I feel like I attract a lot of jealousy, and that makes me sad because I believe in meaningful, genuine relationships. Also, I’ve reached a point where I have confidence in myself, and this can be perceived as arrogance.

I’m used to not sharing my successes and dimming my own light so that others feel less uncomfortable. It hurts me to know that success and hard work can sometimes push certain people away.

Hello, I’d like to share my experience. Because I didn’t know what to do, so I hope this can help you.

First of all, know that this is a painful and disabling problem, but you can get better. Very often, it is muscular, and with the right tools, you can recover.

I was suffering a lot, and at one point I could only drink soup. It was awful. On top of that, I’m a singer, so you can imagine how painful and stressful it was for me.

After many sessions with very expensive osteopaths, I realized that while they relieved the pain, they were not actually treating the root of the problem. One of the osteopaths suggested that I wear a splint 24/7 for three months. So I did it for three months. It did reduce the inflammation, but it also caused shifts in my teeth and changed a bit the appearance of my face. I went to a dentist who told me to stop wearing this splint because otherwhise I will need to wear braces. I refused to wear braces so I stopped everything. And at that time the osteopath was telling me to keep wearing the splint otherwise I will suffer and will go back to awful pain.

I’m glad I didn’t fully follow his advice. Above all, trust your intuition! Don’t worry though, about a year later, everything had gone back completely to normal (my teeth, face, etc.).

So after the failed experience with the osteopath and the splint, I decided to see a physiotherapist (PT). He gave me advice and exercises to do. Then, over the following months, between one and six months, I started noticing steady and very significant improvements.

It has now been six months since I last saw the physiotherapist, and I’m doing very well. I still get a little tension from time to time, but it’s very minor and I can manage it thanks to the exercises he taught me.

So in the end, I was given relaxation and strengthening exercises for these areas: the jaw, neck, and upper cervical area. Everything is connected, and don’t forget that healing is possible! Believe me, you do not need to spend all your money. What you need is a physiotherapist and consistency with the exercises. Even if the progress feels very small, one morning you will wake up without pain.

Also, try to reduce your stress and remind yourself that you are going to heal.

Stay strong and don’t lose hope ❤️

Hello, I’d like to get some opinions about my situation. I’ve ended these relationships, but I still feel hurt.

I’m a young woman, a musician and singer, and I’ve lost several friends in a short period of time. They are in the same field as me, although they are not yet professionals. I work a lot and I feel alone, I feel that my work is getting a lot of envy.

Here are a few situations.

Situation 1:
A friend wanted to address conflicts with me about something that happened two years ago. She refused any phone calls, and since I couldn’t see her in person for personal reasons, she communicated everything through messages. She told me she resented me, that I wasn’t helping her with her project, that I had even taken advantage of her, and that I wasn’t a good friend.

I genuinely feel that I was very supportive of her. She struggles with mental health issues and seems to distort reality at times. She didn’t want to explain things over the phone because she said it stressed her out, and she eventually admitted that she was angry with me. However, I never really got a clear explanation why. She mainly failed to communicate certain expectations and kept resentment toward me.

Of course, the friendship is now over. A mutual friend also cut ties with me for no apparent reason, seemingly in support of her. Those friends were always gossiping about other people and could spread rumors too.

Situation 2:
Another friend, who is older, single, and seems unhappy and envious in her life, mocked me when I was going through a very difficult time. Our friendship ended simply because she asked me to pay for a dessert she ordered, and I refused since I hadn’t eaten it and had already paid for things for both of us.

All of this feels strange, and I’d really appreciate hearing your opinions. Thank you.