u/Joleto5150

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My posts keep getting taken down, just wanted to try again to get everyone’s insight here. My fiance and I have been together for 6 years and 5 days ago she was loving and wanted my name tattooed on her and 3 days ago she said she wanted to break up and have space, and I haven’t seen her since. we have a very loving relationship. I’ve been texting a lot and I know that was a mistake, but I was just desperate. I’ve been trying to show im listening and that I’m here, I stayed up last night studying bpd and told her and she said she’s been asking me to look into it for years and that I’m trying so hard now that it’s too late, and she’s pretty much said everything I’ve said is too late. We’ve had these kinds of things multiple times in our relationship but it’s never been like this, I want to give space but I’m just worried that she’s safe. My question is will space actually help? I don’t want to lose her and I would do anything to fight for her. I know she loves me and loves my family but the past 3 days she’s been treating us we don’t matter to her at all. Any help or insight would be so appreciated on how I should go about this moving forward, do I just stop texting? Full no contact? That’s not what I want at all but what I want is us, and I’d do anything. Thank you for any help or insight

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u/Joleto5150 — 4 days ago

How to help my partner with bpd

Me and my partner have been together for 6 years, since I was 19 and she was 20. I haven’t paid enough attention to her condition, and I’m just now learning about it. She’s pushing me away the past few days and saying she wants to be done but just a few days ago she was talking about getting my name tattooed on her. I know she loves me and she’s just struggling and I’ve been trying (unsuccessfully) to just give her space. I’m trying everything and nothing matters to her, regardless of trying to do better, learning about the condition, I just want to help her. Would it help to just not text anymore? I am open to any suggestions. This has been a cycle every 6-8 months for the past 6 years but this time feels different and I just want to do anything I can. Please any suggestions appreciated

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u/Joleto5150 — 4 days ago

Guitarist/Bassist looking for band

As the title says, I play guitar and bass and I’m looking for a band to join, preferably heavy genres or indie. I’m 24, don’t really care what the music is, I’ll find my place in it. I’m in the uptown area but I’ll travel around. I’ve been in death metal, blues, jazz bands you name it. Bonus if you have somewhere to jam/record. Thanks!

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u/Joleto5150 — 7 days ago