u/JollofPap1

| am in a relationship with a (27 F) woman.
We've been together for only a few months.

A couple of weeks ago, she had her IUD removed.
This is something she had been talking about doing since the start of our relationship. From my understanding, the device was starting to show signs that it was at the end of its life.

Post removal, she is constantly fatigued, which I understand can be attributed to a multitude of factors including volume of blood loss, poor sleep, and overall change in hormones. She's had her period twice in the past two weeks.

She is also now at her wits end with her job; she is ready to resign in the coming weeks and change industries all together. Earlier our relationship, she spoke about her desire to transition into a specific job in a compland utilize her bachelor's degree. This timeline was initially to make that change in 2027.

Currently, she has zero libido and sexual desire.
Prior to removal, she had a remarkably high sex drive and wanted sex 5-7 times/week. Physical intimacy now consists of cuddling, hugs, and hand holding.

It just seems like she's going through a lot, and I'm trying to not automatically assume our connection has weakened or she's not as interested anymore.
(Yes, I'm in therapy). I've asked how I can support her and her response is usually something along the lines of, she's "Fine."

TLDR: I’ve noticed changes in my partner (new relationship) including low energy, absence of sex drive, poor sleep, irregular periods, and possible increased irritability. What changes did you observe in your life after birth control cessation?

I’ve been with my partner (27 F) for only a few months.

A couple of weeks ago, she had her IUD removed.
This is something she had been talking about doing since the start of our relationship. From my understanding, the device was starting to show signs that it was at the end of its life.

Post removal, she is constantly fatigued, which I understand can be attributed to a multitude of factors including volume of blood loss, poor sleep, and overall change in hormones. She’s had her period twice in the past two weeks.

She is also now at her wits end with her job; she is ready to resign in the coming weeks and change industries all together. Earlier in our relationship, she spoke about her desire to transition into a specific job in a completely different field which would allow her to utilize her bachelor’s degree that she acquired a few years ago. This timeline was initially to make that change in 2027.

Currently, she has zero libido and sexual desire. Prior to removal, she had a remarkably high sex drive and wanted sex 5-7 times/week. Physical intimacy now consists of cuddling, hugs, and hand holding.

It just seems like she’s going through a lot, and I’m trying to not automatically assume our connection has weakened or she’s not as interested anymore. (Yes, I’m in therapy). I’ve asked how I can support her and her response is usually something along the lines of she’s, “Fine.” I’ve simply resolved to try to meet her with as much patience & understanding as possible.

TLDR: I’ve noticed changes in my partner (new relationship) including low energy, absence of sex drive, poor sleep, irregular periods, and possible increased irritability. What changes did you observe in your life after birth control cessation?

People often discuss how difficult it is to find a partner, but it’s not often I read about the challenge of forging friendships in adulthood.

I (32 F) relocated two years ago for work. Comically, work is where I do my primary socializing. We laugh, we keke, it’s a good time. I have friendships I maintain that were founded in my home city, but they are restricted to texting, phone calls, and audio messages.

Outside of the work setting, I spend a day or two with my girlfriend and hit the gym solo.

I’ve made a couple of friends via dating apps such as Hinge and even Bumble BFF, but I can count them all on two hands.

So, how are you all doing it?

I (32 F) have been with my partner (27 F) for a few months. Our relationship is great. She’s adventurous, beautiful, caring, and loving. I have moderate sex drive, whereas she has a high one.

The only issue is that she cums too quickly. I’m talking, can’t even last a full 3 min 47 second song. By the 3 minute mark, she’ll be gasping and writhing.

I’m grateful I can deliver my partner such pleasure, but I need a little more than that?

I’ve tried edging her, which I’ve found great success in. This usually buys me an extra few minutes of cunnilingus. However, she finds this exasperating and has explicitly stated, “I better not do that shit to her while she’s pregnant.”

Lately, I’ll stop strumming her clit right before she’s going to cum and will lay the pipe. This results in her having a considerably violent orgasm.

I love being intimate with her. Although, she can only cum so many times in one go. What other things can I do to deliver & receive pleasure that aren’t orgasm centered?

(I already do things like restraining, blind folding, massaging, cuddling, kissing erogenous zones such as her neck & thighs).