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Freud himself said that he wanted to make therapy the new confessional. And now therapy has become the new church. Therapy culture preaches that you must tell your therapist everything. The therapist is a higher being, incredibly moral, and would never hurt or betray you. Therapist as god. Confess your deepest and darkest secrets. In fact, you must!! You must share every one of your deepest thoughts and secrets or this superior being won't be able to help you.

If you are attracted to the therapist, tell him or her. There's no way it will end up badly because, remember, he or she is as perfect, a superior being, incredibly moral.

Therapist as the new Higher Power.

What do you think?

I went to my parking space in my high rise apartment building , one which contains countless dogs. The area around my parking space smelled like urine. It's not the first time that my parking area smelled like a toilet.

I drove to a nice shopping center, got out of my car, and smelled the same disgusting smell: dog urine.

I've gone to stores so many times when a dog has vomited on the floor or took a bowel movement on the floor.

Dog owners have made the world into their toilet . And we have to deal with the smell, the disgust, and the health risks of it. How is that fair?

There is this assumption that the client should tell the therapist everything. This feels so weird and creepy to me.

If a client tells a depth therapist that he or she doesn't want to talk abou something, , the therapist will still keep asking questions, such as, "What makes you not want to talk about it?" "What would it be like to talk about it?" "How can I help you here is you're not willing to talk about difficult things," etc. etc. Pushing the boundaries.

The same therapist will demand personal boundaries. For the therapist, no means no, but not for the client.

Why does the client have to tell the therapist everything -- every secret, every bad experience? Why does the client have to tell the therapist if they are angry at them, or "in love" with them, or attracted to them?

There is no other relationship where we are pressured to tell the person everything.

So many therapists operate as dictators, abusing their authority, pushing around their weight.

I'm on another forum, where I have politely criticized transference in all of its twisted forms (erotic transference, angry transference, mother/sister/father/brother transference, etc. ) I haven't broken any rules.

But suddenly out of the blue, I get this message from a mod (again, not here, elsewhere!) The person was in a full-blown narcissistic rage, reading me the riot act. I haven't been spoken down to and dressed down like this since I was a child dealing with mean family.

And I didn't even do anything. It was something very trivial, but blown up as an excuse to shut me up and shut me down and, hopefully, before too long, get rid of me. Intimidate me into submission.

I responded, firmly, but politely, that the message was aggressive and don't speak to me like this. The person became even angrier and said that I was not allowed to ever criticize the tone of the mods, and that if I do this again, there will be penalties.

So basically, you are supposed to be belittled, reprimanded, treated like dirt, but you can't say anything. You just have to take it. Isn't that the tactic of an abuser?

This is really sick stuff. It's disturbing to think that these people are working with vulnerable clients.

My conclusions: 1. A lot of these therapists are mean bullies. 2. They need all the power and control and will not tolerate being challenged in any way, 3. They rule through intimidation. 4. They think a whole lot of themselves.

Your thoughts, please?

I've come to the conclusion that therapists, especially young ones, know almost nothing about human nature. They lack basic common sense. They may know theory. They may be steeped in politics. But how the world works, -- no.

I realized this after reading a post somewhere else. A young female posted that she wanted to sleep with her middle-aged male therapist. She described, in graphic detail, her fantasies and what she does at night thinking of him. She was leaving the state soon, and ending therapy, and wanted to tell him. She states, "I would sleep with him in a minute." So she asks whether she should tell him all this.

Every person on the page (aside from me) said, Yes, absolutely, tell him. That's normal. That's just erotic transference. You must tell him.

To me that is, frankly, idiotic. You want a young female to tell her middle-aged male therapist that she wants to sleep with him?? And, because he is superior and has magical powers, he won't be tempted?

How can people be so ignorant about human nature? They don't understand a thing about men, especially a middle-aged man. I'm not saying every man would jump at the chance. But a lot would. (Women therapists, too, of course. I knew a female therapist who got her license removed for sleeping with a female client.)

I can only conclude that there is something missing up there for these young therapists.

What do you think?

There is a flood of young therapists entering the field. In fact, there are new licenses, such as Licensed Professional Counselors (as though we need another license), along with licensed social worker, psychiatrist, psychologist, and marriage and family therapists.

What I find fascinating is that almost all of these younger therapists would consider themselves social justice warriors. On their websites, they usually brag about this.

And yet therapy is a top/down profession, especially psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy, which puts the clients in a child-like, regressed state.

How do these young therapists, who proclaim to be so anti authority, so happily assume the role of a superior authority???

The whole idea of transference is completely bizarre, a big mind game.

So a perfectly intact woman goes to a therapist because her parents got divorced and she hardly saw her father. She is supposed to project her sadness, anger, abandonment and hurt onto the therapist.

Since the therapist barely speaks, the client feels so exposed and bit ashamed so that she has all this anger towards the therapist -- or lust, or love, who knows. And then she is supposed to tell him and they explore it. Then when she doesn't see him, she's sad and lonely and cries and maybe even does things to herself out of lust. She goes from intact to an emotional wreck.

Now what is the purpose of this, please? It is supposed to replicate the original wounds? But doesn't this just re-traumatize and cause new wounds and leave the person lonely, regressed, and desperate??

It's like if you injured yourself skiing and now are scared to ski. So you go right back to the original slope and try to injure yourself again to heal emotionally from the original injury?

It's all a big mind game.

Just went to Target, and the store was overrun with dogs. There is a big sign when you enter that says Service Dogs Only. But all of the dogs were pets. Sadly, many shoppers were excited and playing with the dogs.

Some people with the dogs had their children with them. The parents probably teach their children not to lie. Yet, they blatantly ignore the law right in front of the children.

Dog owners clearly think that the laws do not apply to them. Isn't that one of the definitions of a sociopath, the laws don't apply to them?

I just read a couple of articles about the astronomical amount of dogs being drugged. One article, on Yahoo, is called, "Growing Number of Dogs Taking Antidepressants Is Nothing Short of Staggering."

Studies show that 83 percent of all veterinarians are prescribing Prozac for dogs (and Prozac is only one antidepressant, so who knows the real figure).

Another study found that half of all dog owners have to buy something to calm down their dog, including a "Lycra jumpsuit," whatever that is!

An article in Atlantic talked about one dog owner, who has her dog on an anti-depressant, an anti-convulsant, and Clonidine, a blood pressure medicine used off-label for anxiety.

Personally, I know several people who have their dogs on anti-depressants, sometimes several of them at a time for anxiety, depression, "stress colitis, " (that sounds like a fun one), and separation anxiety.

Does this sound normal to you, to have an animal in your house that you have to drug to behave?

I watched a video on Youtube of an Inside Edition episode. The researchers gathered a bunch of dog owners. The researchers had the owners walk the dogs, and then evaluated the dogs' paws. Every single dog had E Coli on their paws.

E Coli is a type of bacteria that causes massive diarrhea, vomiting and possible hospitalization. Many years ago, they had a recall of all lettuce because they found E Coli on lettuce. Another time it was a recall of spinach for the same reason.

On the program, they then informed the dog owners that their dogs all had E Coli on their paws. Obviously that means the bacteria is going to be on their beds, their couches, everywhere.

Even after being told this, THE DOG OWNERS ALL SAID THAT THEY WILL CONTINUE TO SLEEP WITH THEIR DOGS.

Is this madness or what????

I just came back from a UPS store to return something to Amazon. Long line. Woman brings in small aggressive dog, that is barking, growling, bearing his teeth and lunging. Yet the people on line are cooing, smiling, laughing as though this is the cutest thing. The dog lunged and barked at a child

I told the woman at the counter that the dog shouldn't be in there. She just said it was so small and cute.

This is an aggressive dog that would happily attack and bite any of those people, including a child. And the store would be sued.

What's wrong with these lunatics??

EDIT: I wanted to add a few details. The woman had finished her business but didn't leave. Instead, she positioned herself at front of the store, with her dog facing the door. So every time someone came in, the dog barked his head off, showed his teeth, growled and lunged. Yet, she wouldn't leave. She continued to stand there, doing something, who knows what, while people had to walk a gauntlet to get into the store.

That's sick. These people are sick. I wanted to tell her it was time to leave, but the people online would have yelled at me big-time.

They ruin peace and quiet

They ruin relationships and families and gatherings

They destroy parks.

They contaminate stores

They turn a nice day out into a nightmare

They ruin a feeling of safety in the world

They ruin a walk or a hike or a bike ride

They destroy friendships and marriages

They ruin health and safety

They damage bodies

It's clear to me that many, if not most, of us in the dog free community are a traumatized people. Each one of us can name multiple incidents where dogs have hurt us, both emotionally and physically: the barking, lunging, boundary violations, and bites. But it's not Post Traumatic, because it happens every day in real time.

Your thoughts?

Freud only made one visit to the US. According to a colleague of his, when he arrived in New York, he said that Americans thought he was bringing them a gift. But Freud said that he was "bringing them a plague." Another psychiatrist, Lacan, related this story to his students.

I imagine that the early psychoanalysts who brought therapy to our nation knew exactly what they were doing.

Therapy is a major way to divide families, control people, and basically ruin society, which Freud knew by calling it a plague.

Your thoughts?

What I notice is that everyone enables dogs and dog culture, even people who don't have dogs.

I saw an older guy with a Doberman and another dog turn a corner in my building and the Doberman jumped on her, which shocked and scared her. She screamed, the man said, "Get down. Get down."

But did she have a normal reaction, like anger? Did she yell at him, "You scared me. You need to control your dog. He could have hurt me."

The answer is a big fat NO. Instead, after she calmed her nerves, she said, "What beautiful dogs you have," to which he answered thank you.

Similar story. A guy with two chihuahuas turned a corner scaring someone else when the dogs started barking their heads off. She was shocked and frightened. When she calmed down, she said with a smile on her face,"Your dogs are very active" to which he said thanks.

This enables dog owners to allow their dogs to prey on people, with no consequences.

And if we say something and act like a normal person would, we get yelled at and ridiculed and demonized.

I've been reading the late Dr. Thomas Szasz as well as a book on the Tavistock Institute in the UK. Both are saying that psychiatry and therapy are arms of the government and culture. Therapists institute whatever agenda is being pushed at that moment.

Szasz also says that the profession is there to change criminal behavior into an illness. So if someone molests a child, that isn't sick, twisted, criminal behavior. It's a mental illness that can be treated. So let's treat the pedophile and then let him return to society.

I'm also thinking about psychology's role in torture (waterboarding) and also jury selection, again arms of the government.

What do people think? Is this a main role of therapy, to push whatever the Powers that Be want pushed or affirmed?

This is a real button pusher for me, when everyone tells you that you have to trust the therapist. And the therapist tells you that you have to trust them. Some therapists will push it, "Why don't you trust me?" "It's important that you can trust me." "How can I help you to trust me?" Or, "You're not going to make progress unless you trust me," which only produces fear and pressure.

I really find this creepy. Reminds me of some creepy person saying to a child or a teen, "Come here. You can trust me."

Why should we trust the therapist? Isn't that giving away our personal power? And what does it mean to trust the therapist???? Does that mean taking all of the person's advice? Letting the therapy go wherever the therapist wants it to go, even if that is uncomfortable for the person?

Shouldn't people have to earn our trust. And, even then, I think we have to be careful, aside from certain people.

What are your thoughts about trusting your therapist. Have you heard this before?

I was talking to a neighbor and I mentioned that I don't like dogs. He answered, "But they are so friendly."

How in the world is an animal that sniffs you, gets in your crotch, sticks his nose in your food, growls at you, snaps at you, barks ferociously, and potentially bites you -- is viewed as "friendly?"

If a human being came at you out of nowhere and jumped on you, while barking and sniffing and biting, would this person be perceived as "friendly?"

I've been looking at another forum where clients ask questions and therapists answer them. The responses from therapists have been appalling. Many questions are about clients' "attachment" to their therapists. Clients relate that they are depressed over the weekend when not seeing their therapist. One person cries at the possibility of stopping seeing her therapist. Several have crushes on their therapist; a couple of people have such sexual feelings that they look at porn and then they . . .(I'm not going to spell it out here but you get it). One person said that she's in love with her husband and her therapist. Another person talks about graphic things she tells her therapist and she's convinced that he likes this just like her.

And yet all of the therapists are saying that this is normal, this is great, this is the transference, just stay in therapy and talk about it. If someone says no, this isn't great, this is unhealthy and you have to snap out of it (which is basically just me), then the therapists pummel you, call you names, tell you that you are incompetent.

What I just realized that "transference" is really addiction. These clients have become addicted to therapy. They go through detox when they can't see the therapist. And in some ways the therapist is the dealer, not telling the person that this type of "attachment" is not healthy.

Of course, this is very self serving for the therapist to keep the person in this state.

Your thoughts? Is so-called transference really addiction?

Years ago, I remember seeing a therapist for a while (too long). One time, I entered the room really frustrated because I had hit so much traffic. I commented that there is always so much construction in the city where we live. I remember her reaction: she just sat there and said nothing.

It made me feel so bad, so alone, kind of ashamed too. Would it have been so hard for her to be human in this moment, to simply agree, "Yes, it's so annoying to be stuck in traffic when you want to be somewhere." Something like that. But just sitting there and looking at me?

Many therapists use silence as a therapeutic tool. They think that it's useful. One therapist posted that he starts sessions by just looking at the client and not saying anything.

How is this helpful? The client is coming to connect, to get help, to not feel so alone . It really feels like an abuse of power. For some people, it's traumatizing. And yet if you insist with these therapists that it's not necessarily helpful, they will come at you like a mob does.