I’m so tired of being the only one not having sex in college
Vent incoming. I just got back from game night and it felt like I did homework for a group project where nobody else showed up.
I'm in college and my friends all say they love board games. I do too. I'm the organizer gremlin who pre-bags bits and labels things because setup chaos stresses me out.
Lately, any time we plan something a little heavier than party games it plays out the same way: everyone arrives, someone asks "what are we playing," and everyone else says "I'm good with whatever" and stares at me. So I pick a game. The rulebook instantly becomes radioactive. Nobody reads it, nobody watches a rules video ahead of time, and nobody even does the simple stuff like sorting components while I look things up.
I end up doing a full teach while people chat, scroll on their phones, ask random side questions, or joke about how complicated it is. Twenty minutes later the same people are annoyed because they "did not know you could do that" or "wait, what is the point again?" And I'm sitting there thinking yeah, because you treated the teaching like background noise.
I do not want to be a dictator host and I'm not trying to uninvite anyone. I just want one other person to take ownership sometimes so this feels like a shared hobby instead of me running an interactive presentation.
How do you handle this without sounding salty in the moment?