u/Juanita_Banana_

When I was abroad for a language learning trip two years ago in the summer, I briefly met this Italian guy and I felt a lot for him. It was an instant, hard, first glance crush. We met at a party held by the school, and that night he asked me to get coffee the next morning.

So we had coffe and had a meaningfull conversation about everything: our up bringings, passions, dreams. He told me about his life, struggles and how he wanted to change careers and become a dog trainer. I could tell he carried a deep sadness.

I knew there would never be a “him and me”, but I had to tell him how I felt for him, because I believed it was beautiful, and it was driving me nuts to keep it for myself. I didn’t want to do anything stupid, so only when I left the country and landed in Paris for one last stop before I got home:
I confessed my love to him in a text at night in a garden. The next day, he sent me the sweetest message about not feeling the same, but that he that held me in high regards.

I haven’t reached out to him ever again out of respect: I don’t want to be insistent or give him unwanted attention.
But I can see from his socials that he is so much happier, moved where he dreamed of, and is now working at a dog shelter!
I’m genuinely so happy for him, I could cry if I let myself. I’ve never felt as heartbroken as when he rejected me, but I feel so much happiness for him: also a bit of sadness knowing that my confession burned the bridges between us and that I might never be able to tell him that.

Would it be okay to ever let him know? Or am I being self centered?

Hi!
I’m in CEGEP in Quebec, which is a step before University that only exists here (created in the 60’s to provide free higher education to the francophone population ). I’m in a History program, loving it.

I’m thinking of going into Political Sciences. I’m interested in how the political spheres of the world work and also it sounds like a useful degree to have. It SOUNDS like it. But honestly I don’t know what jobs that leads into.
I like to imagine that it’ll get me a job where I can travel a lot internationally and have a cool intellectual status 🥴
I like to imagine working in a consulate or ambassady abroad and hopefully make a lot of money. (100k a year 👉🏻👈🏻)

What is working in the field of political sciences like? What jobs/positions are there?

Thanks!!

Hoping someone else has been through this.

Two years ago, something wonderful happened to me. I went to the DR to meet my extended family: Half sister, cousins, aunt and uncles. My dad is from there, and I was born there but have no memories of the country or my family there since me and my brother where taken to Canada by my mom when I was four. I was taken away from extended family, which I had lived with most of my life because for some reasons unclear my own parents couldn't take care of me.

Now, me and my dad don't speak. It's a very long story but basically he was in the DR when I was growing up and him and moved to Canada when I was 11 to reunite with us: that's when I met him. He lived with us, things went horribly wrong and we got astranged again. Later in life I tried spending time with him, but realized he wasn't a good addition to my life.

I never had a sense of having a family. Things were so hectic and connecting with my mom, dad and brother was painful. I always saw myself as outside of them, and often told myself that I wasn't a part of them, so these feelings wouldn't hurt me as much. I was expecting my extended family to have a problem with my relationship with my dad, but I was wrong.

My extended family are incredible people. I've seldom met people so kind, successful, wise and loving. They welcomed me like they were waiting for me my whole life. And hey've never judged me for the unfortunate situations that took place. I've went back since, and this summer I'm going for a third time.

My life has changed now that I feel someone is looking over me, and cares for who I am. I finally feel like I want to achieve things and that I want someone to be proud of me. I've went back to school, inspired by them. I've felt that too when I met my boyfriend of now four years ; like I was finally seen, and my life took a turn.

But now when I go visit them and stay at their house, I feel like I'm taking advantage of them. It's self inflicted since they treat me like a real family member. I feel so guilty and unworthy somehow. I've never felt how it's like to have a family bond and I'm at lost: How will I give back what they've done for me? What if I don't deserve them? Am I annoying them?

I want to feel their radiance and be a part of their family and I feel greedy and annoying. I have all these people to love now and I don't know how to do that. I hope that one day I will be in a position to give back what they've done for me. I don't feel smart or kind enough to be around them today.

I guess all I can do is keep visiting them and getting to know them, keep working at trying to be happy. I often wonder if I would already be if I got to grow up with them.