u/Jubjub_W

I did delete my original post.
And I won’t post the link again.

If anyone donated and wants money back, please DM me and we can arrange that.

It was about my (step)son missing.
His bio dad ended up taking him to CA without any prior warning to anyone, even my son’s school.
We found out because of local PD doing a wellness check.
It was a whole ordeal.

Just to add to the whole ordeal.
As this happened, my wife and I had bought a house and were in the process of moving. And over the past couple days I have been hauling crap from our current place to our new place. I’m physically and mentally exhausted.
I woke up this morning and saw that one user commented that it was a scam, the gofundme had said that it was for rent/stuff/etc, not legal fees.
That’s a fair assumption. I hadn’t had a chance to read the go fund me.
My wife set it up in her exhaustion while I was packing and loading a trailer because regardless of this ordeal, we also had to continue on with life because that’s what happens. We’re a team. We’re both exhausted.

Maybe I had a knee jerk reaction to deleting my original post, but I just don’t have the time nor the energy to explain every detail right now, even though I’m making this post.
So if you recall my post from WI that said my son had been kidnapped to CA. Please feel free to ask for your money back. I don’t want you to feel scammed. I will figure it out.

For those that are invested and wondering WTF happened.

Bio dad… I can’t legally say kidnapped I guess. I’ve talked to detectives. Who’ve talked to the DA.
Wisconsin law is so messed up it seems. And from close friends they agree, because if Wisconsin family law was different, they’d probably still have their son who tragically passed.

Anyways. We got our son tonight. Bio dad was arrested for contempt (which is absolute BS) and will probably be released Monday.
Bio dad… has some undiagnosed mental problems that really need attention. That may sound like a lot of assumptions, but this is my wife’s word, from when he and her did marriage counseling before and the counselor told her in private how they felt.

Take that as you will, I’m talking about my wife here so please understand whose side I need to be on, and I have dealt with a lot of behaviors from this person that has driven me up a wall. I will share this. Last year we had to deal with CPS in our house, questioning everyone, including my former wife, because bio dad said I was sexually assaulting our son. Zero evidence. Bio dad was doctor hopping, trying to get someone to test our son for STDs, and each of them said no, there’s no sign of SA, and there is zero reason to traumatize a child.
Bio dad has also been going behind moms back to get an autism diagnosis.

This part is strictly for informational purposes, and I feel my opinions could be bias.

The autistic diagnoses could, from my understanding, reward bio dad with some sort of disability income, from which he already receives. The individual doesn’t work at all and seems to convince himself of the stories that he makes up.

Again. I’ve been dealing with this for a few years and my feelings are biased. You are free to form your own.

I did finally read the go fund me, and I wish my wife had made a separate one so people can donate for what they want.
She has been off of work. And I have been for a couple days.
For those that want to help with the legal fees, here’s one page, and those that want to help with living expenses, here’s another. I honestly don’t know how these things work. I, myself, hate asking for money. I had asked my mom for help with moving expenses, who did help, but I also worked like 60-70 hours. and I think I made enough where I can return the entire sum.

I saw the one, only one, comment that said they felt it was a scam, and just deleted my post, because I have too many things going on to argue with someone.
Our son is here with us tonight. Bio dad is in custody, and Monday I believe we are meeting with a lawyer that has a much more reasonable fee.

I love my son. But I also know that at the end of it I am just step dad. He loves his dad. And if his bio dad can get the help he needs to be able to be the father his son needs, great.
I was there once, so it’s hard for me to just not like the guy. When my former wife and I were going through things, at first I was addicted to pain killers. Then sleeping pills. Then kinda whatever I could get my hands on. It took me some time to get clean, and my bio kids mom was extremely gracious after the BS I put her through, but this is definitely different.

My former wife is remarried. And him and I don’t see eye to eye but we gotta get along for the kids sake. Luckily my bio kids are older.

I hope I can be as much of a role model to my step son.

Again, if you donated, and feel it was a scam, please reach out and we can figure things out.
If you donated and believe all this, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I’m exhausted.

And if you’re just keeping up with the story. It’s still being written. I don’t know where it’s going. I’m confused and tired.