u/Jumpy_Butterfly9146

21F. I’ve never truly experienced love or been in a relationship to be honest but i hate the way gender wars influenced me. Not just the gender wars but how i always end up getting disappointed and hurt when I try to open my heart to love again. I’ve had my guard up for the longest because each time i try dating it never really progresses. Now i ghost men & run from love due to fear. 🫠 but im lowkey a deep lover and most days i just think about how much i wanna be loved.

I’m a 21 year old girl who moved out of her hometown to Europe. For 4 years of me settling in a new country I’ve had a hard time making friends, it’s always one excuse or the other, they often don’t make time for me and I understand that the work life here can be hectic and people struggle to find a balance between work and their social life but ffs, I’m human and sometimes I need someone to talk to, hangout with, make memories and share special moments together. Although, I still have my friends back home that I talk to. but, I don’t depend on the distance as people can also grow apart. I’ve always been the type of girl who’d rather sit alone than follow the crowd. I’m never desperate for attention. I’d like to think I’m a loner who craves human interaction rarely. I’m making this post to encourage others who find themselves in situations like this. You are loved, DO NOT EVER BEG for someone’s time or attention. Don’t force things. Actually, go have a drink, book that reservation and go solo, do the things you love. One of my favourite things to do is, put on my headphones and listen to my favourite playlist. A boring life I know, however, I’m in a slow but steady phase of life & I believe things would align at the right time. Maybe this phase is teaching me to love myself more and spend some more time doing the things I love. I will come back to this post soon and I’ll smile because life would be so much better when I find myself again.