u/JustARandomGuy6996

I (25M) and my Wife (25F) at the time (about 4 years ago) had a good relationship with my sister (28F). We hung out a lot, but this is different.

My wife and I do not like when sick season comes around. During this point, it was definitely sick season. We had stayed inside for about 3 weeks, and only ever got out to pick up our Walmart grocery orders. My birthday came. We felt like maybe we'll be ok to go visit my parents for my birthday, they'll get to see our daughter who was about 7 months old. When we showed up, it was only my father there. My mom & Sister took her two kids for their monthly check up.

20 minutes later, they show up. Only after about 15 minutes of her two kids and our daughter playing, she finally says:

"Don't let them eat or drink after each other, or put the same toys in their mouths cause they have Hand Foot and Mouth".

To be clear, we do not ever let our daughter swap drinks or food with anyone.

We separated our daughter from the kids cause we got worried.

We left shortly after. 4 days later, our daughter started showing signs of being sick. Light coughing, nothing much. We planned a Dr. Appointment for her the next day.

The night before, I was scrolling through Facebook and had seen a post from my sister, her daughter was taking a breathing treatment.

(Her daughter has no breathing problems).

The post said:

"My poor babies are slowly getting over RSV".

Me and my wife got super worried so I texted my sister personally and asked when they were diagnosed. She was very petty about it.

what day? no straight answer. Did she know when the kids were playing together. No straight answer.

She led it on and argued & was very petty, & very disrespectful about the whole situation, until finally we stopped, and the next day, went to the appointment.

Over night, our daughter had developed worse symptoms and sure enough the test results came back positive for RSV.

From what we know, RSV is very dangerous for babies and young toddlers.

I have asthma and our daughter has been Hospitalized twice before hand for breathing problems caused by a simple cold.

She also has trouble breathing when performing actions that cause people with asthma to flare up.

The same day we found out, our daughter got even worse, so we had to rush her to children's hospital & she spent a week recovering.

Yes, we found out after more arguments that my sister had taken her kids to get tested for RSV that day & never told us until 4 days later. She said she wouldn't have taken the kids inside if they were sick but she literally let them near our daughter with their HFAM.

I told her, that she had seen our vehicle outside and could've went home instead of bringing them in & her excuse was:

"Mom asked us to come in".

I told her she could've politely declined & could've went home so noone got sick, but she clearly didn't care.

After the situation, we haven't had any contact with her or let her see our daughter.

Yes, we do blame her for our daughter contracting RSV.

Noone got sick, no signs of anything for weeks, only after being around my her and her kids that day.

My parents & siblings disagree, & arguments discussing the situation have occurred.

4 years and we still stay away from her.

We also would like her to apologize but she has declined.

Yes, that does sound petty of us, but we only want an apology for our daughter.

When she was admitted in the hospital, her oxygen hit 80, & was in a very bad state.

Thankfully the doctors and nurses did their best & were so helpful. Our daughter is doing great & we now take even more precautions when sick season comes around & overall.

AITAH?

I (25M) and my wife (25F) used to be very close with my sister (28F). This happened about 4 years ago.

It was sick season, so my wife, our 7-month-old daughter, and I had stayed home for about 3 weeks except to pick up Walmart grocery orders. For my birthday, we decided to visit my parents since we thought it would be safe.

When we arrived, only my dad was there. About 20 minutes later, my mom and sister arrived with her two kids after a doctor's appointment. They all started playing together.

About 15 minutes later, my sister casually said, "Don't let them eat or drink after each other or put the same toys in their mouths because they have Hand, Foot, and Mouth."

We immediately separated the kids and left shortly afterward. We were upset she waited until after they had already been playing to tell us.

Four days later, our daughter started getting sick. We made a doctor's appointment for the next morning. That night, I saw my sister post on Facebook that one of her kids was taking a breathing treatment with the caption, "My poor babies are slowly getting over RSV."

I messaged her asking when they had been diagnosed and whether she knew they might have RSV when we visited. Instead of answering directly, she argued with me and avoided the questions.

The next day, our daughter tested positive for RSV. Later that same day, her breathing became so bad that we rushed her to the children's hospital, where she spent a week recovering. At one point, her oxygen dropped to 80%.

After more arguments, my sister finally admitted she had taken her kids to be tested for RSV the same day we all got together. She never warned us beforehand. Her excuse for bringing them over was, "Mom asked us to come in." I told her she had seen our vehicle outside and could have simply gone home instead of exposing everyone.

For context, our daughter had already been hospitalized twice before for breathing issues caused by simple colds, and I have asthma, so respiratory illnesses are something we take very seriously.

We know nobody can prove exactly where she caught RSV, but no one around us had been sick for weeks, and this all happened immediately after they played together.

We asked my sister for an apology—not because we think she intentionally got our daughter sick, but because she didn't warn us about Hand, Foot, and Mouth or tell us her kids were being tested for RSV. She has refused.

Our parents and siblings think we're overreacting, but because of everything that happened and her refusal to take any responsibility, we haven't spoken to her or let her around our daughter in four years.

AITAH?

I (25M) and my wife (25F) used to be very close with my sister (28F). This happened about 4 years ago.

It was sick season, so my wife, our 7-month-old daughter, and I had stayed home for about 3 weeks except to pick up Walmart grocery orders. For my birthday, we decided to visit my parents since we thought it would be safe.

When we arrived, only my dad was there. About 20 minutes later, my mom and sister arrived with her two kids after a doctor's appointment. They all started playing together.

About 15 minutes later, my sister casually said, "Don't let them eat or drink after each other or put the same toys in their mouths because they have Hand, Foot, and Mouth."

We immediately separated the kids and left shortly afterward. We were upset she waited until after they had already been playing to tell us.

Four days later, our daughter started getting sick. We made a doctor's appointment for the next morning. That night, I saw my sister post on Facebook that one of her kids was taking a breathing treatment with the caption, "My poor babies are slowly getting over RSV."

I messaged her asking when they had been diagnosed and whether she knew they might have RSV when we visited. Instead of answering directly, she argued with me and avoided the questions.

The next day, our daughter tested positive for RSV. Later that same day, her breathing became so bad that we rushed her to the children's hospital, where she spent a week recovering. At one point, her oxygen dropped to 80%.

After more arguments, my sister finally admitted she had taken her kids to be tested for RSV the same day we all got together. She never warned us beforehand. Her excuse for bringing them over was, "Mom asked us to come in." I told her she had seen our vehicle outside and could have simply gone home instead of exposing everyone.

For context, our daughter had already been hospitalized twice before for breathing issues caused by simple colds, and I have asthma, so respiratory illnesses are something we take very seriously.

We know nobody can prove exactly where she caught RSV, but no one around us had been sick for weeks, and this all happened immediately after they played together.

We asked my sister for an apology—not because we think she intentionally got our daughter sick, but because she didn't warn us about Hand, Foot, and Mouth or tell us her kids were being tested for RSV. She has refused.

Our parents and siblings think we're overreacting, but because of everything that happened and her refusal to take any responsibility, we haven't spoken to her or let her around our daughter in four years.

AITBF?