u/KeyResident6263

A little context-

I had posted about this before and then deleted because I got some great responses from this community and I thought it was resolving itself. Now today she reaches out with this.

She ended things with me saying “I can’t be in a relationship, but I care about you and want to be a part of your life”. I told her that doesn’t work for me so I wished her well and gave her the respect and understanding.

I have thought about her almost everyday, but never reached out because I don’t think it’s fitting to continue with someone that seemingly doesn’t have the same commitment that I was ready to put forth. Nothing bad happened between us- she just got short and distant a week before inviting me over to “end things”.

Now I know that this may be hard for me because, after not speaking for a month, if I do decide to take her up on her offer the inevitable may happen. The part that messes with me a bit is the last line where she says “just know you haven’t left my mind”. Obviously I was good enough to her that she’s looking for a way back in. I’ve done a bunch of research on avoidance and the personality, but I had just assumed she left me knocking rather than discard. I don’t really think rather of that was the case at this point, but here I am clueless on how to handle this. She’s good enough to pursue, but at the same time, I don’t think it’s fair to use my birthday as a stepping stone back into my life.

Please pick me apart and help me here. I’ve been single for years and have a pretty good handle on my life and would like to learn more on how to better approach situations like this.

So, it’s been a month since we last spoke, and she hasn’t reached out either. I feel like she’s discarded me. The last time we talked, she had me over because she wanted to “see you and connect.” She told me she couldn’t be in a relationship, but she still cares a lot about me and wants to be a part of my life. I told her I couldn’t, and when she asked why, I said, “I guess it’s just the way my hearts wired.”

Now, I feel guilty like I should reach out. But the week leading up to our last conversation, she was short, not very engaging, and not as close and personal as we had been. Mind you, this was a young relationship, only two months, and she had already done something similar after the first month. But then, a week later, she came back and said she didn’t want to lose me.

I’m lost. I can’t break up with her because she really was someone we had mutual connection and chemistry with—like, solid.

Here are the screenshots from the week leading up to our last conversation.

Can someone please help me interpret what’s happening?

The last picture and “thank you” were a little thought I had for her because I honestly never saw her doing this.

I held doors open, flowers, all the gentlemanly things because it felt right- natural. I didn’t have to think I just went with what felt right in my heart.

Did I completely interpret this whole thing wrong? Was she trying to explain something my smooth brain couldn’t comprehend because I’m naive?