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Before anybody asks, yes, I already have an appointment booked to have it looked at I just want to hear other's experiences as well :)

I have a 2021 Outer Banks that has about 94,800 miles on it. Over the last few weeks I've noticed it just feeling off while accelerating from a stop, kind of jerky and shuddering. This escalated in the last couple of days when I noticed that I had to start pressing on the gas pedal a lot harder for it to accelerate than I have in the past. Driving it overall doesn't feel the same as it used to somehow.

Curious if anybody has had these things happen before and if so, what the problem was? Given the high mileage I have on the vehicle (bought it two and a half years ago somewhere around 40k I want to say, and it's been our road trip car + I've moved twice and gone back and forth between home and college several times since I've owned it so I've put more than 50k on it) its value has declined quite a bit so I'm concerned about an expensive fix on it being worth it. I'm also just genuinely frustrated because as much as I love the car I'm tired of all the little things like this I've had happen on it and all of the recalls I've had to deal with.

Thank you all in advance for any input you have!

Hi friends :) can someone please explain to me like I’m 5 how to set up the UB Horns Up app so it’s linked to my student ID and I can get student tickets? It keeps saying my student account has not been made for the app and I can’t figure out how to add my person number to it

I've posted in this sub before about how terribly things have been going at my job. For context, I work in my church's special needs ministry, which operates a day program for adults with a WIDE (probably way too wide if we're being honest) variety of IDDs. My boss has little to no experience with this population and no patience for them. When I bring up issues surrounding their safety (whether it's related to their behaviors or the behaviors of our staff and volunteers, because, yes, we have staff and volunteers that directly pose risks to the safety of our adults) she blows me off (and I'm in a tricky spot as to where to report to from there because we're not state regulated). Yesterday things got kind of personal too and it really hurt.

We watch an exercise video or take our adults for a walk every morning. Yesterday because of another event we did a video inside of our space. When my boss walked in after dealing with another situation (which was WILDLY mishandled but that's another story), she looked at the woman in the video and asked if "everybody was pretending to be pregnant." My coworkers and I were very confused, and our boss clarified that she thought the woman in the video was pregnant and that everybody was doing the same thing as her. Then she followed it up with, "I really hope she's pregnant because there's no excuse to be that big if you aren't." The worst part about it was that the woman in the video was roughly my build. I'm by far the biggest person who works in this program, but also by far the most active. Whether or not she intended it to be a jab at me, I don't know. But I felt so self-conscious and uncomfortable in my body for the rest of the day.

I've said for the three years I've been there how much I love this ministry and how much it has meant to me and how deeply it has impacted my life. Over the last year, 2/3 upper leadership members have turned over and the changes haven't been positive. We're struggling for enough staff to appropriately support our participants when last summer we often had too MANY staff and had to send people home. I've been put in situations that have led to me getting injured that my previous managers NEVER would have allowed to happen and then not taken seriously when I bring them up. And it feels like nobody cares about the health and safety of the adults in our day program.

I came very close to simply walking out yesterday because of how bad things have gotten but it's my only source of income and I move out of state in a month so I'm not about to try to find another job. I meet with the director of the overall ministry tomorrow, and intend to tell her I'd like to bring my concerns to HR (because in reading our public HR policies, I've found that my direct report has failed to escalate SEVERAL things that the church requires her to). But I'm just heartbroken that things have gotten this far. I care so much about my adults and outside of a couple of my colleagues, it seems as though nobody else feels the same way.

I work in a day program that runs out of my church. I've been there for three years, and during my first summer, I noticed that one of our volunteers becomes aggressive with a couple of our adults (stepping on toes when they aren't "quiet enough," pushing them, taking food away if they aren't eating as fast as he would like). I've reported it time and time again and a couple of weeks ago, my direct supervisor told me that "he's never actually hurt the adults, so it's okay." Last week, I escalated to her boss, the overall director of the ministry, who told me she's never heard that this is a problem. It feels like nobody cares about it happening but me and a couple other people. Additionally, today, one of our adults became extremely aggressive towards other participants in the program (grabbing them and staff, swinging bags around the room, running away). My boss wouldn't remove him from the situation and when my coworker and I tried to move the rest of the group into another room, our boss allowed the participant who was aggressive to follow us out there where he continued his behavior, directly putting the other adults at risk. To top it all off, ever since I had that conversation with my boss's boss last week, my boss has essentially been giving me the silent treatment (I'm 20 and she's 40 by the way. I just think that's wildly pathetic). The only time she speaks to me is if I give her information about our participants, such as noticing that memory loss has gotten worse for one that has developed early onset dementia, and it's just to blow me off by saying "you don't need to harp on everything that's wrong over and over again."

Having other adults in the program look me in the eye today and say "I'm scared" because we couldn't get the participant who was aggressive separated since my boss was unwilling to do the hard work to make that happen broke my heart. I don't even think that the participant who was grabbed by his peer's parents were notified. What I'm struggling with is the fact that I can't imagine staying in a program which doesn't seem to care about the safety of the adults we work with. But I love my participants. There's nothing that makes me happier than when I see them genuinely excited to see me and wanting to talk to me and share things about their lives. I'm worried that the program is going to quite simply implode before too long, and I'm worried if I leave I'll speed that process along. But I am already so anxious about going in on Thursday and I'm stuck on where I'm supposed to go from here.