u/Kind-Apricot6348

okay so i need advice. tell me how i should’ve handled this. i go to commander night tonight and walk up to a pod and see if they need a fourth. they do! so i sit down and join. i pull out my low bracket 3 choco, and everyone else pulls out their commanders. one guy is running teval with proxies (he asked if we’re okay with proxies and i said yes as long as you’re not proxying anything crazy) and another guy is running chatterfang. i run squirrels myself with hazel as the commander, but i have the chatterfang/pitiless plunderer/ warren soul trader combos along with some other 3-4 piece infinites. i ask the table “oh i would love to play my squirrels too, but it has infinites are we okay with that?” they all say no, this is around low bracket 3. fine! no issues i’ll play choco.

everything is going okay, squirrel man plays chatterfang turn 3 and i counter it because i know what he does and i need more time because he has tireless provisioner out as well. turn 4 he casts him again. fine i’ll let him through. game is playing as normal. first, teval man is milling through his deck and mills a rhystic study. my face is 😐 but i let it go because its whatever. then, turn 5 squirrel man plays PITILESS PLUNDERER. i IMMEDIATELY say “uh that goes infinite” and everyone plays dumb. so i explain it, and i say “i thought we weren’t doing infinites? i would’ve played hazel” and the squirrel man goes “oh i didn’t even realize it went infinite.” my face: 😐😐😐😐. OF COURSE YOU KNEW. i counter it, then by doing that i put a big fat target on my head and even though i had 15 life and they had 40, squirrel man and teval man were attacking me incessantly and i lost shortly after.

so my question is, what should i have done in this case? should i have been more clear at the beginning talking about brackets? should i have said something different? i’m relatively new to commander night so i dont know if this is just something that happens.

my boyfriend got me into magic a few months ago and my first deck was the hazel precon. i’m keeping hazel as the commander and i’ve just been building it up to have fat squirrels because it’s hilarious. squirrel stonks are UP with the release of squirrel girl and tippy toe, im so excited!!!

i’ve been gluten free after a celiac diagnosis for like 6 years now i think? i haven’t eaten gluten in like 3 years, but i was thinking this morning of the times i have accidentally eaten it. one of them was like 4 months into my diagnosis. i got a hamburger at a place and asked for a gf bun. midway through eating it, i looked at my ex’s burger, then looked back at mine and was like “shit this isn’t gluten free”. after taking a few minutes to process what was going to happen in about an hour, i said “fuck it” and ate the rest of the burger.

it was a good burger. the following 24 hours was not worth said burger.

A few days ago my boyfriend and I were laying in bed together talking about the job that I started a month ago already giving me a raise. He lives in Canada and I live in the US, so we were talking about how I technically make more money than him now with the conversion. For context, I just started this job a month ago after being unemployed and on unemployment for 3 months. I was unexpectedly let go from my previous job, and my boyfriend was a godsend helping me financially (buying my groceries every week and buying me little things I wanted) while I was on the limited unemployment income. I want to point out that he has little to no bills, and I have a lot from trying to fix some financial issues I caused myself during college. During my time on unemployment he only paid for my groceries and little trinkets here and there I wanted. He NEVER paid any of my bills.

Since historically he has made more money than me and has less bills, he pays for most of our meals out, and some of the small things I buy myself. Sometimes he splurges on big things for me (like $200+). I would say prior to me losing my job it was 60/40 split between him and I buying stuff. When I was unemployed it was more 90/10. I always felt guilty about needing help, but he reassured me he didn’t care and he would do anything to make sure I was safe and comfortable.

Back to the other day, when we were discussing finances he randomly joked “Haha now that you’re making money again you can finally start pulling your weight” and I genuinely died a little inside when he said this. Even typing it out now i’m tearing up because it truly came out of left field and it felt so hurtful. He’s a great guy and he never made any inclination he felt like it was lopsided the way we do finances, and it makes the whole relationship feel transactional like he’s keeping track of how much I spend vs. him. I’m super super upset by this almost a week later. We’ve talked about it a few times and he’s really apologetic and reassures me he doesn’t actually feel this way. Am I insane for still being really hurt by this? I really don’t know if it’s valid.