u/Kindly-Plankton2279

Hello,hope y'all are having a wonderful day.

I'm gonna write this for everyone who wants to try alcohol but wants to hear actual experiences.

A few points i should point out before actually writing

1_i put first in "" because i've tried cocktails before this experience but they didn't do anything for me

2_ please don't take the amount i drank and try it yourself, everyone body behaves differently

3_while drinking make sure to sip water as you're drinking

4_drink responsibly,in small sips,and watch how your body react,once dizzy and a bit fuzzy STOP and continually drink water

5-DO NOT mix alcohol with anything containing caffeine/gives you energy

6_ have fun :)

Ok so that's my experience

I went on a date with a guy i met on tinder, one where we both agreed that the best first date is with alcohol to stop the awkwardness and anxiety of a first date.

we brought ram (the alcoholic drink), snacks,water,and other drinks to mix the rum with.

I'm not gonna focus on the date aspect in this post.

So i opened the bottle of rum and noticed it's apple smell,took a sip,and it was so bitter and burning (just to try,no need to actually do it since you have to mix it with something else).

I poured less than a half a cup of water and the rest is the stuff to mix with,after the first half of the glass,i started to feel the calmer,relaxed, and overall not nervous.

After the second half,i started to feel that it's harder to think.

I poured another cup and drank it slowly,i started to feel the effects,mild euphoria,so calm,and a bit light headed.

I stopped for like 30 mins

Then another last half a cup and drank it in one go (it was stupid don't do this please,as i said,drink slowly,but i knew i wouldn't black out,and we were going for a walk so i "had" to finish it), after like 10 mins, the "unable to walk straight" hit me,i still was conscious, can still form thoughts,and can still act sober.

After that i felt my bladder really full (from all the water i drank along side the alcohol),i went and i did my business,and after like 30 mins, went to eat something to sober up.

During eating i did feel more drunk (because all the blood was going to my stomach,which is totally normal, also it's because of the half cup i drank at one go )

And during my way home i still was a bit dizzy and couldn't walk fully straight ( i could act and actually walk straight but i just lived the moment and let myself loose) but the effects were fading slowly,as i got home i was while exhausted,i was able to speak normally,walk normally,and pretty much function as a sober person.

I immediately went to sleep and had the best sleep of my life lol

Woke up normal,no hungover,no headaches,and went about my day like normal.

That's it for the experience, but i want to give more scientific points for everyone.

1_ alcohol is a sedative,which is a fancy word to say it makes you sleepy and less functional, that's exactly why i highly advice to NOT drink anything that gives you energy along side it, while it seems simple, i'm sleepy so i should drink something to regain my energy,but biologically that's not what will happen, it'll confused your brain,give you a terrible headache,and you'd feel even more tired, other that that it just makes you feel normal when you're drunk so you'll just drink more which is a horrible idea and may result in over drinking to dangerous levels .

2_while drinking adenosine (a chemical)starts to build up a lot,this chemical function as a "sleep pressure" , that's why you should drink only if you have nothing going on after drinking because you WILL feel sleepy,and please don't fight it, just go to sleep and have a rest

3_alcohol makes your kidneys produce more urine (which means more water is being lost), that's why you should drink water even if you don't feel thirsty

4_eat after feeling a bit sober or completely,your liver was too busy dealing with alcohol that your blood sugar is now less,all and all listen to your body :)

5_again PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE drink water, it's not worth the headaches and the dehydration you'll feel after sobering up

That's it for this post,love y'all,drink responsibly,have fun,and have a great day.

This is somewhat of a vent post,and the very tragic story of mine ,under the title of "was it all worth it?,was any of the damage i had good damage? Or is it just damage"

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Hello,for those who don't know me i'm a 19 y old bttm living in Amman rn

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I've been through... A lot,i first started to get into sexual stuff when i was 12,when i got to 13 i popped my cherry,when i was 13 and a half i also got into a "relationship" with a guy who's in his 30s, it's more of a son-father relationship really.

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after that i "cheated" on him with another guy, whom i actually did stick with untill the age of 17,this guy was absolutely toxic and very narcissistic,we both were,he cheated and i did,he black mailed me and i did,he made me hate my family and tried multiple times to make me "move out" with him ,he was ghosting, silent treating ,and he had sex with me when i clearly stated that i don't want to have sex, the relationship was always on and off never certain on anything,he damaged every part of me.

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At 17, i gathered every bit of courage inside of me and finally broke up with him.

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It was fine,after all it felt like any other time the relationship was in its "off" state.

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after that, I immediately met another guy,tall masculine and is basically a walking testosterone,he was pretty much treating me like a dog,he never expressed how he feels,when we go out he always says "what? You're just gonna stay silent? Open up a conversation",he always came late to our "dates" making me wait for an hour or two before he actually showed up,he once took me as a personal translator for a guy he wanted to "date" that doesn't speak Arabic,i was chasing like crazy,i made him a bunch of DIY gifts, confused multiple times that i don't want what's between us if it'll just be me chasing,and he always made me pay for everything,to the point when it's the 5th day of the month I'd be completely broke,i couldn't handle it and broke up with him with the line "حتى ليرة مش قادر تصرف علي؟ يفضح عرضك م ارخصك يزم".

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After that i contacted the toxic guy i was in a relationship with and broke up with when i was 17,only to find out he's married now, after 5 months,he found someone and now is married to,i started to repeat the cycle of breaking up and coming back again,and again,and ... Again, until one day,he told me to come to his house quickly and it's an absolute emergency,so i did,and found out that his wife wasn't home,he tried to get intimate but i shut him off,even going to the point of pinning me to bed and saying "stop thinking with your brain and use your heart,you know you want this",i didn't do anything and immediately became cold,once he noticed that i'm cold and was not interested he started to use the old trick of "i love you,every time i sleep next or with my wife i be thinking of you and imagining her as you" ,"just imagine if this hous was ours,if this life was for you and me,but you had to ruin it didn't you?" ,i stayed cold and got up and walked to the door,he yelled my name and i waited for him to come,when he did i told him "what's between you and me is non existent,idc if you love,i don't love you,and you can say all you want about how perfect your life now is, but quite frankly i don't want to be in it,have fun in the lie you call life,but don't drag me into it".

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After like 3 months,i met a new guy,smart ,cute, talented and fully my type,it was nice the first few dates,but the toxicity that i grew up with found its way into this relationship, immediately after the first date i told him i want to be his boyfriend, i was moving incredibly fast,after that whenever he didn't answer I'd panic and immediately think he doesn't love me, whenever he's out with friends i get super jealous, whenever i mess stuff up i write walls of texts saying how sorry i am,he had enough and tried to end it on a good note,but i couldn't lose him,he was the only good thing i've had in forever,so i said I'll change,and i didn't,a lot happened but basically we got into this "freinds" phase,then "therapy" phase (where i try to heal myself with him bushing my triggers every now and then and me not reacting unrationally),he couldn't handle it either so he just blocked me,i couldn't handle it anymore and finally broke,for the first time since i was 6,i cried,i cried so hard i couldn't catch a breath,a few days later i went to the hospital to check on my heart cuz it felt like it was really slow, thankfully nothing serious happened.

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I skipped over a lot of details,and i still have more to tell,but it's getting late and i really have to sleep.

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But in the end,after all that,i stand here wondering,am i gonna ever make peace with all this?,was it all worth it?,was any of this BS necessary to build who am i today?.

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The answer is no,but because of all this i'm starting to get better, healing slowly and helping others heal,more confident,more ... Everything.

Y'ALL HAVE TO SEE THE COMMENTS, I'M SO FUCKING PROUD

Hello everyone, i'm planning on taking a guy i'm interested in on a date ,i was thinking dali or books@café would be good places since they're LGBT friendly,but some people say dali now accept mixed couples only,and idk if books@café has any happy hours cuz the prices are not favorable since i'm paying for two.

Any help where there's a good place for a first date with good prices (if they serve alcohol it would be a huge plus)

I've posted the same post like a day ago about dali's happy hours,but some people commented that they couldn't get in and you need to be a mixed couple to enter, i'm planning for a first date so i don't want us to stand on the side of the road thinking where to go if dali didn't allow us in

I searched around but couldn't find anything,does anyone know? I'm planning for a first date there but afraid it's gonna cost me a lot lol

Hello,hope everyone is having a great day

I'm typing this for everyone who wants to go and get tested at sawaed for HIV and syphilis but feels lost (my experience was in the one at Ar-Razi st.)

You can call before going there to make sure it's open,when you call they'll ask where you wanna go,for Amman it's the number 1,for the service itself for HIV and syphilis test you'll dial 2,ofc the phone call is not recorded for privacy,when you arrive there you'll know the building immediately,the lab itself is on the third floor (there's a sign outside if you get lost or looking for something else) ,the staff are so friendly.

when you arrive you just say i'm here to take an HIV and syphilis test, they'll put you in a room that's so private no one can actually see you from outside,the one that took my test was a girl and UGH SHE WAS SO ADORABLE AND FRIENDLY I CAN'T, anyways,she just pokes you with a very small needle and takes the blood and puts it on the test thingy and adds a few drops of another solution (a buffer) , while you're waiting she or he will ask you fro the first initial of your ,your father's,and grandfather's names,you can lie it's ok,and your birthdate,and that's it,she or he sits with you and is ready to answer any questions you have -for me since i'm studying MLS i was asking about the test and she was generous enough to explain the way the test works-.

If you want you can ask them to refer you to another lab with a discount,while not anonymous, it's better to actually take it if you're concerned.

And that's it, they'll tell you if you have anything or not,and you're good to go ,no payment,no nothing,make sure to say thank you tho lol.