u/Kisskadee

I came in on Monday with severe pain that I thought was a kidney infection. They did a bunch of tests and found that the wall of my gallbladder had thickened and that my ejection fraction was 25%. All of this did not seem to warrant surgery to me, but the doctors and surgeons were nearly insistent that I should have the gallbladder removed or else symptoms would get worse. Once on the operating table, I became nervous and realized I did not want to do the surgery and asked if it was too late and they said a little bit and I said technically it’s not though and then they put the gas on me and I resisted it and they said it was oxygen. next thing I know I woke up without a gallbladder. The surgeon said that it had substantial scar tissue. They discharged me home right away and I felt fine at first. However, over the next few hours, my pain became unbearable and I had a low-grade fever and could not stand. I went back to the ER and got admitted. My liver enzymes are high and now they are monitoring them over a couple of days. Basically I just feel so overwhelmed and confused and have no idea what’s going on. This all happened so fast. Does anyone have any words of wisdom? I’m so sad

Hi! I’m 32F. I live in Los Angeles. I am pansexual. I believe I have strong relationship skills as I have so many wonderful, long lasting friendships, even though of course I am not perfect. My first relationship when I was 16 was 5 years, and I thought long relationships were so easy to find. Well I broke up with that one, biggest regret of my life, and have basically been in abusive and/or short term relationships one after the other. I’ve done an insane amount of therapy and work on myself, and still the pattern repeats. The last relationship really did me over. She was the nicest person I’ve ever been with and we had a beautiful relationship and then she just changed her mind, said she has to figure herself out. I can’t handle the heartbreak anymore. I want to get married and have kids. I feel fatally flawed, I don’t know what is wrong with me and why I can’t have a relationship longer than a year and ALWAYS get dumped. I am scared to admit that b/c I feel pathetic and unlovable. I know this is probably a quest beyond human aid but does anyone have any practical advice? Thank you and sending love to everyone.