u/Kitchen-Limit-5411

I anonymously reported my friend/coworker for posting kids from our job on her private story and now I feel extremely guilty.

We work with children, including kids in crisis/dysregulation, and for a long time she’s been posting pictures/videos with them on her private Snapchat/Instagram stories. Nothing insanely viral/public, but still enough where I always felt uncomfortable with it because I don’t think it’s appropriate and there should be boundaries when working with vulnerable kids.

I finally sent one of the videos anonymously to management and now I feel sick over it because I’m scared she’ll get fired. The worst part is this is someone who has genuinely helped me out before — she’s given me rides, been there for me at work, and overall been a good friend to me. So now I feel like I completely betrayed someone who cared about me.

I also feel hypocritical because I’ve definitely vented negatively about the kids to her before out of frustration/burnout, even though I would never post them online myself.

Now I’m spiraling thinking I’m a horrible person or going to get “bad karma.” Part of me feels like I did the right thing because these are vulnerable kids and privacy matters, but another part of me feels awful because I care about her too.

Did I completely overstep?

His energy changed out of nowhere after 2 months and now I feel completely dysregulated

I feel like I’m losing my mind and I need outside opinions because this situation has completely dysregulated my nervous system.

I’m 25F and was talking to this guy consistently for about two months . We saw each other every single weekend, I’d sleep over constantly, he’d always text/call me, double text, ask me to come over even late at night after being out with friends/family, go on dates..etc. The consistency was very strong.

What makes this hit harder is that before him, I had basically isolated myself romantically for almost a year. No male connections, no sex, nothing. My life and nervous system actually felt calm and regulated. Then I let this person in, got attached, got comfortable, and now everything feels flipped upside down.

This weekend though, his energy completely changed out of nowhere. Friday came and went with no sleepover, barely any communication, no check-ins like usual. Then Saturday came and still no plans, no call, no effort to see me. I expressed that the shift threw me off because even when he’s out with cousins/friends, he usually still communicates and makes effort with me.

He eventually responded and apologized saying he should’ve texted me, said he missed me, etc. But the energy still felt extremely different to me. No urgency, no trying to see me, no double texts, nothing like how he normally acts. It’s now Sunday morning and I barely slept for 2 days because my anxiety got so bad.

I genuinely cannot tell if:
\- I’m picking up on a real shift/possible loss of interest
\- there’s another girl involved
\- or if my anxiety got triggered because the consistency suddenly changed.

I know people are gonna say “it’s only been two months,” but when you go from constant consistency and emotional routine to sudden distance, it really messes with your head.

Does this sound like someone pulling away/changing up?

I feel like I’m losing my mind and I need outside opinions because this situation has completely dysregulated my nervous system.

I’m 25F and was talking to this guy consistently for about two months . We saw each other every single weekend, I’d sleep over constantly, he’d always text/call me, double text, ask me to come over even late at night after being out with friends/family, go on dates..etc. The consistency was very strong.

What makes this hit harder is that before him, I had basically isolated myself romantically for almost a year. No male connections, no sex, nothing. My life and nervous system actually felt calm and regulated. Then I let this person in, got attached, got comfortable, and now everything feels flipped upside down.

This weekend though, his energy completely changed out of nowhere. Friday came and went with no sleepover, barely any communication, no check-ins like usual. Then Saturday came and still no plans, no call, no effort to see me. I expressed that the shift threw me off because even when he’s out with cousins/friends, he usually still communicates and makes effort with me.

He eventually responded and apologized saying he should’ve texted me, said he missed me, etc. But the energy still felt extremely different to me. No urgency, no trying to see me, no double texts, nothing like how he normally acts. It’s now Sunday morning and I barely slept for 2 days because my anxiety got so bad.

I genuinely cannot tell if:
- I’m picking up on a real shift/possible loss of interest
- there’s another girl involved
- or if my anxiety got triggered because the consistency suddenly changed.

I know people are gonna say “it’s only been two months,” but when you go from constant consistency and emotional routine to sudden distance, it really messes with your head.

Am I overreacting or does this sound like someone pulling away/changing up?

25F living at home with a very strict Haitian mom. I work, pay my bills, and I’m starting grad school.

I’ve been dating a guy and sometimes stay over his place. If I don’t come home or don’t answer, my mom panics and has even called the police before. She’s now giving me the silent treatment.

I feel like this is way too controlling for my age, but I also technically live under her roof.

Is this normal or am I right to feel like this is over the top? At what point do you just start living your life regardless?