u/KitternSorry

Маю проблеми з соціолізуванням (чи як воно там), і вони вже мене до сказу доводять тому хочу з цим нарешті розібратись. Хотілось ще б обговорити парочку питань щодо небінарності і всякої такої шняги, плюс просто морально було б краще якщо б психолог був ЛГБТК+ френдлі. Шукала в інеті і нічого особо не знайшла, тому подумала може тут хтось знає де таких можна знайти? Бажано аби вони коштували в районі 500 грн, але не знаю наскільки це насправді реалістично, бо психологи самі по собі доволі дорогі, тому прошу чесності щодо ціни і навіть якщо є пропозициї дорожче, то всеодно було б супер корисно. Дякую заздалегідь!

Long story short: I’m terrible at socializing because of being isolated for a few years studying in online school, having to change 5 schools, moving countries, being an introvert and generally just having one friend (which I don’t have anymore) half of my life. I’m starting uni in just a few months and am incredibly anxious about making friends and ending up alone, because the last time I was in a situation like that (new school), I just closed myself from everyone and never made new friends. Although that was 2 years ago, and right now I’m in a better place mentally, it’s still extremely hard for me to communicate even when buying something and making new friends. Although I have two friends already, they are gonna study in different unis + another country. I really really want to meet new people, but every time I try to talk to someone, or someone tries to talk to me, I get nervous, stumble at my words and embarrass myself and/or can’t find topics to continue the dialogue. Me being unsure in my identity may or may not affect that as well, although I’m not so sure about that. Everyone tells me that friends will find me, that I shouldn’t worry and everyone will be afraid in their first year, but I don’t believe that anymore. If I don’t make any effort to talk, no one will talk to me.

Can someone give some advices on how to maybe calm down in such situations, or what generally I can do to upgrade my social skills? How was it for you in your first year of uni? How did you meet people there? Did you just walk up to some people and talked, or?.. Thank you lots in advance!!!

So, I'm going to live in Poland, I'm specifying that cuz I'm planning on buying from Allegro or polish brands (although other suggestions would be welcome, I'm just worried it would be pricey). Do you guys have suggestions on what binder I should buy? I have average breasts, although I don't know my exact cup size cuz I don't wear any bras (except for sport bras), but approximately E or F cup. Because I'm experimenting, plus cuz it's my first binder, I don't want to buy a really pricey one, so maximum price would be about 184 PLN or 50 USD. I'm still greatly confused about my gender, so I just wanna try things out and see how they feel : )

For a long while, I knew that I don’t really feel like a girl, but never really wanted to admit it to myself. My parents are homophobic and transphobic, so that doesn’t make the decision easy as well. My brother has a trans friend, he’s pretty chill about things like that, he even went on the pride fest in June, so that what calms me down a bit, but we aren’t really close right now. I keep telling myself that I’m overthinking stuff, but it’s been like this for a year and a half now, maybe more, sooo… people already keep mistaking me for a boy (I have short hair and mostly wear baggy stuff), which in the first place made me realize that I actually like being called that. Do you guys have some tips on how you got through that barrier of not accepting yourself and finally take a step further? I don’t really know if it’s okay to ask something like this, sorry if I’m being weird a bit.