if you have bpd you can have healthy relationships
my gf (22F) has bipolar and bpd and i (21F)have audhd but we have been together almost 2 years. according to reddit we should not be working. reddit doesnt know how much work and effort healthy relationship requires nor that they can happen when you meet the right person and put more effort than just love
i also have internal OCD, clinical depression, and PTSD. my gf has adhd and ptsd as well
our mental illnesses and differences has not stopped our relationship from thriving. it has taught us to navigate conflict and accomodate one anothers differences. i have very direct communication style and if i didnt cushion how i communicate during conflict it could make my gf split. likewise if she doesnt tell me grievances or things in general in a blunt and harsh way i wont understand it. the beauty of our relationship is that we love more than enough to compromise and genuinely put effort into navigating our differences
i hope this gives yall hope. you are capable of being loved and loving regardless of being diagnosed with BPD or tism
PS. stop using your diagnosis as an EXCUSE to be an ass. it is an explanation not an excuse. acknowledge your faults and not only take accountability but make an effort to avoid repeating the same mistakes. This goes for EVERYONE!! I honestly hate when people say they are rude because theyre autistic. you can be rude and not register and apologize when confronted, but dont use your social ineptitude as an excuse to be an asshole all the time. this goes for the people who say "its because im autistic/bpd/xyz" every time they do something wrong then continue to not acknowledge it and do the same thing over and over again
ps part 2. i am reposting this on a throwaway account to give people hope and spread positivity thats why my profile is like that