u/LadderSenior2836

Felt like the infp sub would be best for that , I,m an intj but do you guys think too much caring and sacrificing for someone ends to them being .... Spoiled ? Not sure how to describe it but have any of you felt like they a relationship or connection that it would have continued and it would have been much better if they were less caring and sacrificing for the other person? And did this thing ever happen in reverse to you? Just wondering if I,m the only one who feels like this . Hope you all a wonderful day and plz it will be fine I promise you don't have to continue overthinking (infp core xD)

Halloo , how are you guys all doing? I know life is probably rough on most of us but I,m proud of you,all and I hope it,ll get better for all of us . So i,m a guy and I have been trying to date recently but it's not working so well and I can't find people that are looking for the same things I,m looking for or having the same values I have even in my past dating experience I can't say I matched really well with the girls I have dated before and after thinking about it I guess I discovered the reasons are firstly naturally as intjs I guess we just have high standards ( I don't really like to call it high standards but anyways)and demand more than most people would and we are naturally perfectionists and I know I will never find someone with the same treats I,m exactly looking for but In order for it to work I must close the gap and by saying this I,m not saying I want anything crazy or something just normal human treats like loyalty, caring .. etc but as you know humans are generally becoming worse and worse by time and a " good person" just became too much to ask this days

Secondly my problem about dating in real life is the lack of choices since we are not really social it's even more hard to find people who fits my criteria so I try online dating which gets us to the third problem which is although you could meet alot much people online but now days most people online are just hollow and immature or just looking for fun further more no need to tell you online dating for men is hell and sadly I,m not even that attractive :⁠-⁠( and I think i have been always loved more for my personality rather than my look , which isn't a good thing when it comes to online dating. Sooo since all this problems apply for avg intj and I don't think I,m the only one who is facing them , did any intj here discover a more effective way ? Or something creative and new or someone have a good method for it ? I would really use an advice right now and thank you all !

I,m a frist year finance student, I do enjoy the field alot and i could say I,m happy going throw this career, my problem is each time finance careers are mentioned you always hear big numbers something like ohhh I know my cousin who works as ib for 5 years and makes 700k or ohhhh I know people in this hedge fund get 400k as fresh graduates, but when I look at real people working in the field taking about their salaries , the numbers isn't even close and tends to be much lower so realistically what salaries should I expect after pursuing this career for years and in different fields like hedge funds or investment banking or private equity, etc

i,m an economics major in a business school, still figuring out wha should i do to get a good career in quant , right now what i,m focusing on is c++ and statistics next to my degree studies , my plan is to finish my degree and go for mba , cfa , caia , frm , and a phd in physics while going hard in math and python and c++ by myself , obviously this will take years and i,m okay with it but is this an actual good plan or there's better options

so basically i,m a male and i had a friend from a while and long story short we are not friends anymore , the thing as i have overlooked a ton of annoying and bad behaviors he was doing over the short time i knew him . now i just have this urge to call him and just keep cursing and vent at him then just disappear. i thought this weird urge will just leave after a while like it should but i have been thinking about it since a week now . and obviously i know that,s very childish thing to do , like what is the point to go fight with someone i,ll probably never even talk to again however it just feels tempting to do it just for the peace of mind , would you do it ?