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I don’t want spell instructions or anything lol, not trynna violate rule 4. I just wanna ask what does it mean when a flame starts energetically jumping (not the air or my breath, I checked). I did a spell to get into med school, already got the needed mark and now just praying to get a spot in the actual school, as I did the spell the flame was relatively still. At one point while I was burning my sygil (custom made for the cause), not like just as I burned it but after a while it was almost fully burned, my burnt paper started to glow. Like really glow. It looked like a diamond almost and the flame started to jump energetically, is this a good sign? Nothing like this has ever happened to me before and I always use same candles and same paper. Any advice would be appreciated!

I feel like this is a common misconception so as a psychiatrist with a phd in gender roles I feel I have to explain this a little bit better. Feminism ideology is solely about abolishing patriarchy and gender roles, which in conclusion gives women equal rights. Feminism shifted the societal norms in order for women to choose a path equal as men, which directly puts them out of being solely a housewife.

I also often see that being a housewife is a “free choice”, however that is never the case. Consent is something very complicated, maybe you consent in being a housewife, however that choice will never be truly your own. Society and gender roles will never criticize a woman being a stay at home mom, but for men it is expected that they always have a career and their own money and success. That on each own makes it a misogynistic path in life.

Currently 5% of stay at home parents are men, 95% are women, that feels like a free choice to you? To put it into perspective, there are about 30 million men who are fathers of underage children in the United States, of which only 2 million are stay at home fathers. There are 26 million mothers living with children under the age of 18, of which 10 million are working moms. That tell you something? Also it is estimated that there are about 80-85 million mothers (in general) in the US, but only 75 million fathers, unless 10-15 million children are born only from a mother (joking matter I don’t believe in parthenogenesis) it means that there are about 10-15 million fathers who don’t even acknowledge they have children.

This means that about 1 in 4 mothers is a stay at home mom, but only 1 in 15 men is a stay at home father. And that’s in the United States. I don’t think I need to mention countries like Afghanistan or Iran. So no ladies, feminism didn’t fight for you to be a housewife, they fought for you to get out of the house.

(If you want sources or book recs I am more than happy to provide them, just too bored right now lol. Comment and I will answer)

Edit: This isn’t about judging or tearing down women who were gaslighted into believing that the choice of being a housewife was truly their own, but about clarifying what we, as feminists, are fighting for and why these women still need help.