u/Lavender-Toast

Just seems absurd to me to see listings for them for over 100$ 😭 like they’re not out of stock???!

I don’t want to buy the CD online I’d rather get it in target or Barnes and noble but I have no idea if they’ll be in stores? Does anyone know for sure?

I hate unsolicited advice. when I want advice, I will ASK YOU WHAT I THINK I SHOULD CHANGE. Most of the time I’m just ranting and expressing things that I want to say, not asking for advice.

Even if I’m actively complaining about something and someone says well have you tried xyz. THAT WAS NOT AN INVITATION TO CORRECT ME SOMETIMES I JUST WANT TO COMPLAIN. God forbid a girl wants to vent and have someone go lol same instead of saying what I’m doing wrong. Sometimes when I want to vent I just want someone to listen and to make me feel seen and heard, when someone offers me advice it just feels like they are invalidating my feelings.

Like most of the time it’s no shit Sherlock. I’m just complaining to complain and I already know what you’re gonna say and it’s been said a million times

But lots of these people who do this are my dear friends and family, and I know they don’t mean to invalidate my feelings. I know they care for me and are just trying to help and have my best interests at heart. And I don’t want to make them feel bad by saying it’s not helping and it’s actually a little annoying, so I just ignore it 😅

Is this just me?

But also on the flip side of this, I’m really bad at giving my advice to other people. If someone asks me for advice, I feel like I never know what to say or how to phrase it to sound helpful. so most of the time I just listen and nod and try to be there for them 😭 I’m just bad at words I fear.

I’m halfway through college, about to be 20 years old. I really really want a hysterectomy (but keep the ovaries). I’ve already looked at the doctors list for my state and I’m luckily in really close proximity to lots of good ones (western WA state lol). But im still on my parent’s health insurance and will be until I graduate college and start working full time. I’m hoping for a hysterectomy since I’ve always had extremely painful and debilitating cramps and sometimes very heavy flow, along with nausea, dizziness + sometimes awful migraines, plus arm back AND leg cramps. One time even went to the ER when the pain was so bad. Plus my mom and my sister never have my symptoms, they rarely ever get nauseous (I’m so jealous).

My primary doctor suspects endometriosis and/or adenomyosis but suggested I just get birth control rather than try to diagnose it (which I was like seriously? But I’ll gladly take the birth control), so I got the arm implant from my primary doc last year. Arm implant will be good for 3-5 years which will get me through college, but I always thought of it as my temporary solution until I can get sterilized. I know bi salp would be significantly easier to get, but I would still have to have birth control to regulate my periods, which to me doesn’t seem worth it if I could be sterilized AND stop having periods forever with just one surgery, and no more birth control! Though I’ve been doing great on Nexplanon so far and I have no complaints, I don’t have any of the severe cramps and nausea and everything anymore the only side affect I’ve noticed is that my periods are irregular like only show up every few months, they are very light but last 2x longer which is weird. Which I knew that nexplanon doesnt 100% stop periods lol. But I’ll gladly take a two week mildly-inconvenient period every 3-4 months instead of the monthly hell I used to have 😅🙏

But I don’t want to keep having to get my implant replaced if I don’t want periods, and to risk having more/worse side effects the longer I have it. It just seems kinda pointless considering I’ve known for a long time that I absolutely do not want kids, and my parents know that I don’t want kids and were thankfully pretty understanding (my mom especially), and they were both fine with me getting birth control (since I am on their insurance and all). But I’ve never brought up sterilization with them since im not really sure if they’d be okay with that. But also, most of my extended family are super uber conservative Christians and the ones who knew about my birth control were kinda iffy about it. And oneof my grandmas specifically is super adamant that I WILL want kids someday and I don’t even try to explain to her why I don’t want them 😭 So EVEN if somehow my parents were okay with me getting sterilized, I wouldn’t want word getting out to the rest of my family from them. So better to not have them know 😭 I don’t even want most of my friends to know besides 2-3 of my closest friends. I’m also not in a relationship, have never been, and don’t plan to be in one soon, so “partner’s consent” isn’t even in the question lmao.

SOOOO basically, my question is, I know I should probably just wait 2 ish years till I’m out of college and on my own health insurance to get a hysto, but is it possible to get one sooner if I can?? And also I don’t live with my family, I’m fully moved out only home for breaks and such, if that’s helpful at all. I don’t really need to get a hysterectomy right now anyway, but maybe within the next year would be nice. I’m only starting to look into it anyway 😅 I will still continue to look into it though!

TLDR: want hysterectomy because I never want kids and don’t want to deal with really painful periods, and also don’t want to take birth control forever. but don’t want parents finding out while I’m on their insurance.

Sorry this is so long guys 😅

Is anyone going to see Conan at BST Hyde park?? I might get tickets for the second night, I reaaaally hope I can go but still trying to figure out the logistics of it. But I wanna know if there’s a lot of Conan fans going? And also what the festival is like? Like what sort of things can I bring to it etc?