Best friend said as a "joke" I look like a dude.
Context: we were talking about being single and relationships and stuff then she mentioned another trans girl has recently gotten single but then she pointed out her ex was a dude and they might be heterosexual" and then said "as a joke" that it wouldn't matter in my case because I look like a dude anyway. Mind saying I'm 9 years into HRT. I said it's hurtful to say, like it's a borderline thing to say on the expensive of my passing, it's the punchline, I don't really see a joke there, am I overreacting when I'm hurt my best friend would say that to me? I would never *think* to make that joke to a trans person.