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So I have been on the outskirts with my father after having gallbladder removal surgery because I didn’t tell him I had surgery. I honestly didn’t think about letting him know, it never crossed my mind. We had a talk two and a half weeks ago where I reached out and told him I wanted to apologize face to face where he told me “if the solution is to never talk again, then so be it”. I apologized, told him it genuinely never crossed my mind but maybe it was a subconscious thing to not tell him. When he asked why I said “well I haven’t felt like part of this family” and he went on with that it’s my fault because no one in that family likes my partner so no one wants to reach out to me or have a conversation with me when I’m there with him. I ended up leaving with him hugging me and telling me he loves me and I haven’t reached out since. I’ve heard from people that live with him that he’s telling my younger siblings they’re forbidden to see me, then changed it around to she’s forbidden to come inside the house. And tells everyone that I’m a POS and the only reason why I want any sort of contact is to shit talk him.

Today I get a text message with responses like one of your traits is you can’t be there for the hard conversations and that he won’t apologize for anything he’s done but he wants to make things right.

I haven’t responded yet, but I’m at a loss if I should out him on his behavior about me the last two weeks with me being gone, or if I shouldn’t even respond to this.

There is no “making it right” at this point. He’s shown me how he truly feels about me and I’m over it. I don’t want people in my life that are going to talk badly behind my back and not even respect the relationship I’m in. Any and all advice is appreciated and welcomed!

Hey yall, so I have been going through it with my father for about a couple of weeks and now it’s getting to a point where we won’t speak. Sorry for the long storytime.

Earlier this month, I had to go into the hospital. In the midst of the pain and getting admitted for emergency surgery, I completely forgot to tell my father. (For reference I’ve been three times this year and it was the first time I haven’t told him) When I realized I didn’t, I was so high on pain meds that I figured he’d look at my location and get back to me. I now realize my mistake and should’ve reached out to him.

Anyways, a couple of days passed and I get a text from him asking why I was at the hospital for 24 hours and I let him know what happened and that I was okay and back home safely. He called me all pissed off because I didn’t let him know. I let him have his space to decompress and when I felt sober enough, I reached back out to him to explain what happened and if I could apologize in person. When I go to apologize, he tells me, “Were gonna get to the bottom of this, whether you like it or not. And if the solution to this is to never talk again, then that’s the solution.” We get into the conversation and I’m honest that it slipped my mind. But he didn’t believe me; he feels that there is something more going on to it than I’m letting on because I let my older siblings (who are not his kids) know and it isn’t right. For context: my mom kept kids updated, I didn’t. I was going through too much to be on my phone. I tried explaining that to him, but he didn’t want to hear it. Then he wants me to open up as to what I’m feeling. I told him, “I don’t feel like I’m a part of this family anymore.” His response? “Well no one here likes your boyfriend so that’s why no one talks to you. They all see your sister’s ex boyfriend in him.” And that makes it okay to not talk to me without so much as an explanation? I leave it at that and left the house while saying goodbye and I love you to my father. That was the last time I’ve had contact with him.

Since then, he refuses to text me, refuses my younger siblings to see me because “We will all talk shit about him”, doesn’t like the fact that I am keeping in constant contact with my younger sister, and I was just told today from my sister, “Dad says I can see you, but you are not allowed inside the house at all until you get this resolved between you two.” That struck a nerve in me. Even though we have been rocky for the past five years, it’s been getting better. I just turned off my location for him because in my eyes, if he doesn’t respect me or my relationship, he doesn’t get to see where I’m at or what I’m doing and with who. It breaks my heart that it’s gotten to this point but I felt like I did all I could do. I talked about what he wanted to talk about and I’ve pushed my mental health to the side to make him happy. I’ve shut up multiple times about not being a part of that family and keep my head down while they all laughed and giggled around me, not letting me join in on the conversations. And now it’s becoming a big deal? I genuinely have no idea why he’s treating it like this and honestly sounds kind of childish. I know it might sounds childish from my end because I won’t reach out to him but truthfully, I don’t think I want to. I said what I needed to say and it’s being proven that he feels I need to resolve this by myself even though I was the one who initiated the conversation in the first place.

AITA In this situation? Has anyone else gone through something like this and how did you deal with it? Cause honestly I’m not sure how I’m gonna be able to handle this; my birthday is next month that I share with my younger sister and this year will just feel different now that we can’t celebrate it together like we were originally planning (a simple dinner and cake afterwards with the family)

So I don’t want to out myself, but I was on MLOA from May to January. Starting in late February to early March I started having another medical issue where I had to continue to give away my shifts until I had no more left. Earlier this month, I had emergency surgery to fix what was going on!

While I was out with a doctor’s note (approved MLOA again) I got a call saying I needed to speak with a manager before my shift even started…. Could this be a termination for all the give aways I did back to back to back? I’m not entirely sure but at this point it is what it is, I just want to go into it mentally prepared so I’m not a mess during the walk back to my car and I can bring all of my costumes.