u/Legitimate_Fig1730

Just out of curiosity or if anyone has any experience - I started at Food Lion in August 2024. Started my 401k in May 2025. I have about 4k in it right now. I’m going on maternity leave in a few weeks and am not sure on if I’m going to return to work afterwards. If not, what happens with that money?? Will it get paid out? Am I even fully vested at this point? Can I roll it over? If anyone knows about Food Lion’s policy please let me know. Thanks!

My boyfriend has lived in this apartment for about 8 years, and I have been here for about a year and a half. The man below us has lived here about 7 years. For some reason, some months after I moved in, he has started banging on the ceiling- like we are being loud or something.

My hobbies include reading, embroidery, crafts, things like that. My boyfriend’s hobbies are reading and video games. This is relevant because unless we are cooking a meal or going to the bathroom - our feet are not even on the floor.

About a year ago, he came up once around 6pm while we were cooking to ask “are you guys doing construction in here?”. We were making spaghetti and did bang a wooden spoon against a pot a few times. I was frustrated at the time, because we weren’t banging on the counter or the floor, and the noise ordinance in our state is 11pm-7am. And it was just a few times, not like we were sitting there banging pots and pans for an hour.

After that incident he just started banging on the ceiling. And random times. Sitting on the couch watching a movie? Bang.

Reading with my feet propped up? Bang.

The worst part is NOW 1am SLEEPING!!!!! Bang.

I’m writing this at 5:45 AM after getting woken up by our next door neighbor accidentally banging into our bedroom wall- but then of course next thing I know I hear BANG and our bed shake.

We’ve talked to management countless times and the only solution offered was US moving apartments. I’m 8 months pregnant. I’m getting fed up. I’m bringing home my baby in a month and I truly don’t know what will happen if she gets woken up because this guy hears imaginary footsteps or something.

What should we do? We’ve had multiple meetings with him, and they’ve spoken with him multiple times. My boyfriend gave him his phone number so that way whenever he hears a noise, he could notify us. We were very reasonable and genuinely wanted to figure out what he was hearing because like I said earlier- when we are home, we don’t do anything!!

I almost walked downstairs butt ass naked (pregnancy hot flashes) to cuss him out. I ended up not doing that because the people across the hall have a ring camera and I wasn’t mad enough to put clothes on. Just mad enough to come to Reddit.

Hey everyone, I’ve spoken to a few women in my personal life who have had both medicated and unmedicated births, but I’d like some more opinions/experiences.

In a perfect world, I’d like to avoid an epidural. The general consensus of who I’ve spoken to is that they all felt soo much better after delivering naturally. It was worse in the moment of course, but afterwards they were able to move around much sooner and better. I also hate needles and I feel like I’d feel really anxious not being able to walk or move how I want to. I also know that in the moment all of that could go out the window and I will be begging for any sort of relief😂

Even if you haven’t had an experience with each, I’d love to hear about experiences with and without an epidural!! 🩷

Hey ladies! Currently 33w and over the course of the day yesterday I noticed baby girl wasn’t moving nearly as much as usual, even after meals, sweet treats, cold water, and resting.

I have an anterior placenta, she is getting bigger, and she is currently head down so I knew that movements would change, but I was concerned at how light they were. I was still getting movement from her but just not at the same intensity after eating and resting and whatnot.

Never felt the need to do kick counts since she is so active and strong, but I decided to lay down and try it around 8pm. She got to the 10 movements in the 2 hours, but usually she gets to it after a few minutes.

Around 9:45 I decided I needed to go in - the process was so easy! Called the nurse triage line (save this number in your phone!!), answered all the questions, and the hospital called back within 20 minutes and told me to go ahead and come on in.

We get there and they strap me up to do the NST, baby was moving some at that point, but still nothing crazy. After that, an ultrasound tech came in to check amniotic fluid, smaller and larger movements, and to make sure she was doing practice breathing. After she left, they put me back on the monitors until the doctor came in to talk. When I got back on the monitors, baby was being her usual strong moving self!!

My nurse was wonderful and told me that most times what happens is concerned mamas come in and then baby decides to wake up and move around, but they always want us to be safe than sorry!

I was so nervous and scared to go in and thinking of all the “what ifs” or worried that I was overreacting, but everything was perfectly fine and baby is doing great!! So if you are having concerns- just go in!

What is the general consensus when it comes to celebrating Mother’s Day while pregnant? I’ve seen mixed things where some people don’t consider themselves or pregnant women as “mothers” until the baby is born. (Assuming they don’t already have children)

I’m pregnant with my first, due in less than 9 weeks. I don’t have a mother to celebrate (estranged), and my boyfriend isn’t close with his mom, who also lives states away so that will just be a phone call.

My boyfriend hasn’t mentioned anything about any plans at all, and I’m about 99% certain that he hasn’t gotten me anything. I definitely feel upset and disappointed, as I assumed he’d want to do something for me, and although we haven’t had a specific conversation about it, I have hinted at certain ideas (mostly things I’d like for late pregnancy like a couple more clothing items to get me through and a foot bath massager thing).

Is this the norm? No “real” mother’s day celebration until the baby is here? Maybe if I was barely pregnant but I’m almost 32 weeks so I am pretty close to having this baby.

Hey everyone, 31 weeks pregnant FTM here. Short and sweet version is that I have no one that I want in the delivery room.

Baby’s father and I were together about a year, we broke up but were still seeing each other, and I ended up falling pregnant during that time. Initially, we were having major issues, mostly due to his emotional immaturity. Around Valentine’s day we started talking again, and a few weeks after that, my dad and I had a huge blowout fight so I came to live with the baby’s father. Anyways, it’s back to the same stuff as before, and he is not taking anything seriously about the baby. He does not want to set up the apartment or anything, and I simply can’t wait any longer. I will be moving back home in the next week or so. At this point, I don’t want him in the delivery room, and can’t imagine that will change unless some magical 180 happens with him, which I’m done waiting for.

My mom is not in my life, so I don’t have that.

I can’t imagine I’ll want my dad in the room lol.

Besides that, I do have female influences in my life, my grandma and some aunts that I am close with, but not in the way where I want them in the delivery room. I see them as my grandma and aunts, not as mother figures if that makes sense.

I’m really torn and feeling so sad right now. I don’t want to do it alone but at this point I just don’t know what else to do.

Did anyone give birth alone? How was it? Do you wish that you had someone there, even if it wasn’t an “ideal” person?

Hey everyone, I’m due in July with a baby girl and am super excited! I’ll have 16 weeks of leave, and baby’s father will get 8 weeks. I know this will not be a vacation and will be very dependent on the baby’s temperament… but how much “free” time do new parents usually have?

I have a billion books to read and there are some shows I’d like to catch up on, I’m just wondering how realistic is it that I will have *some* time to catch up on these things?