u/Legitimate_Hawk_760

my bestfriend of 8 years has been pulling her hair ever since i know her. we met at 11 and back then she would always play with the hair in the neckline and her hair there was so sparce. then she switched to play with the hair of the top of her head at 13. after 2 years she had a short mullet and she started to play with neckline hair again so much that the right side of the mullet got a few inches shorter than the left. and for the last 3 years she is playing with the right front of her hair and that region is not completely bald but they got so short(a few cantimeters). she thinks that she doesnt have trichotillomania because she says that she doesnt mean to pull hair out, she just likes to play with it aggressively and the hairs get pulled out accidentally. she says that the feeling of pulling a hair out makes her feel gross but she loves aggressively pulling hairs which causes sparce hair spots. i want to help her but im not sure what to do.

im planning to get my belly button pierced but i need to start swimming workouts in pool in 2 months. will it be okay for swimming?

when this happened i was 18f he was 18m. he was psychologically devastated and he had an exam coming, which is the most important exam of all the students in my country that determines your future university and major and we can only take it once a year. long story short i wasnt feeling so good about having sex because it was a new thing to me. i always got so stressed out about it because of pregnancy risks and getting caught. but i was forcing myself to face my fears when he asked me to come over. that one time he asked me to come over and i said no. he asked again and again and i kept saying no. he said he didnt learn no as an answer. a few days later he asked again and again and finally i said yes. i went to his place and he knew i didnt want to do it and asked if i didnt love him and i clearly said that i loved him but i didn't want to do it. he told me to at least pretend and i did pretend. but i couldn't keep pretending and cried then we broke up. after 3-4 weeks he took the exam and got a result that he didn't deserve at all. i feel so guilty.