u/LeopoldTheSnail

About two years ago, I knew that he had something of a problem. He was unpleasant to be around when he had been drinking, and I had asked him to cut back and the cutting back never stayed. After we had a big long talk then, he said he would just stop drinking and as far as I knew, he kept to that.

I found out yesterday that he didn't. We had been trying for a baby, and I got pregnant (it's/would be seven weeks today). Yesterday, I started bleeding heavily and went to the hospital, and it really seems like a miscarriage is very imminent. He went out for a drive to clear his head last night, and came home obviously altered. I asked if he had drunk any, and he said he had two and it was the first time since he stopped. I was disappointed, but decided to let it go and something still felt wrong so I went to look in the outdoor recycling to see what I would find. I found three empty 12 pack boxes, a tall boy 6 pack, lots of cans etc. I came in and (not my finest moment) told him he's a liar. Asked him to show me where he kept it and he pulled half of another 12 pack out of the back seat of his car.

I went to my parents' for the night, and this morning I have been searching high and low. I've found so much. Tote bags of empty cans in both of his vehicles, tons of empty ZYN tins (i didnt know he did nicotine either. F***). I have his keys still, we're going to sit down and figure out what the plan is in a few hours once its a little later and he's slept more of it off. He's very apologetic, and swears he can stop but i know now he's an alcoholic and a liar so I don't know if I can trust him.

I feel like I have lost both my baby and the husband I thought I had all in one day and I'm crumbling.

Local Al-Anon has a zoom meeting today at 10, so I'm probably going to go to that. He knows he needs help.

But he works a very blue-collar job and I know his coworkers are the reason he started the ZYN pods thing so I don't know if he'll ever be able to break away from it.

I don't know what I need but I need...something.

I'm looking for a girls name. We have a boy name all picked out (Charles Alexander "Charlie". There's family connections there)

Edit: Charles is a name we have picked out, not one that has been given to an actual child. This is our first baby.

Our last name starts with an S, we'll call it "Sutton" for the sake of this post. We sort of don't want to give the kid the initials "S.S." because of, ya know, history. Or initials that spell anything else terrible

Here are the girl names on my list right now -

Carolina

Rowan

Maia

Melody

Aerin

Carina/Karina

Violet

Emily

Danae

Corinne

Maxine

Give me ideas!

Edit because I read the auto-mod message - I'm only asking because spotting during my luteal phase without being followed one day later by a full period has never happened to me ever before in 15 years of menstruating.

My husband and I are TTC, and I have been tracking *everything*.

For the last four days now (starting on day 10 post-ovulation) I have been spotting - nearly all just brown, sporadic throughout the day, there was nothing at all today until this evening. My last period was on day 25 of that cycle, so I'm already in "could be getting another period" territory, but it's not ramping up into anything significant at all.

I was thinking maybe it was implantation bleeding, but I don't know if it's supposed to last this long. Everything I'm reading says it is usually only 1-2 days.

I took a pregnancy test today (day 13 post-positive-LH-strip, day 4 of spotting) and it was negative. Do I keep testing every few days? Is something wrong?