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I realized recently that one of my acquaintances probably has $20-50 million in equity from joining an AI startup early. I don't know why, but it's been making me feel so bad about myself! It feels like my accomplishments financially and career-wise mean so little comparatively, and that the things I've been excited about for the future still won't even measure up. Like say I save 5 million, it will still be nothing in comparison.

How do I get over this? I know objectively other people's wealth has no impact on my life, but it is triggering all sorts of things for me emotionally. Like wanting to be the best in the class but someone else already got an A+++++.

Does anyone else feel like they fall into money comparison? If so, how have you gotten past it?

Hello! I have a conundrum. Our friend's wedding is the weekend before ours. However, because there's is Saturday-Monday and ours is Thursday-Saturday, there is only a few days between them.

We live in the U.S., but both weddings are in India (a one hour flight apart). We have about 8 mutual friends who are invited to both weddings. I was originally thinking we would of course go to the wedding, and that it would be convenient since we'll be in India. But now it is feeling quite tight looking at the schedule. My fiance thinks we can't go since we'll need to start meeting with the planner at our destination, but I think we should still go. I feel it's rude not to.

What would you do in this situation?

My fiance's family booked our planner without asking us, and the planner does wedding decor in-house. I literally cannot overstate how much I HATE the lookbooks they sent. All the photos in their portfolio are so garish and tacky - things neon colors, plasticky looking everything, no organic elements (flowers, greenery, candles).

We are getting married in India and many traditional events, so I know part of it is local aesthetic preferences, but there are so many local decor options that I like. My fiance said "I told the planner what we are going for [candles, twinkle lights, organic florals, greenery) and he said they can do it no problem." But when they sent him images of past weddings that 'fit our goals,' it was just more of the horribly garish and tacky style.

My fiance is saying that we will give him our moodboards and they will just execute exactly what we want. But I don't trust their eye at all. Is it worth pushing to go with one of the florists that I actually like the portfolios of, knowing his parents will be resistant because they don't want to hurt the planner's feelings? Or is it possible for someone whose past work is at odds with what we want to successfully execute what we want?

Sorry for the rant, I'm truly spiraling about this haha.

My fiance and I are getting married in India, but we live in the U.S.. The destination is around a 25+ hour flight for most of our guests.

At most Hindu weddings I've been to, the ceremony seems like it's 1-2 hours (maybe average 90 minutes)? However, my fiance's sister's wedding ceremony was 4-5 hours long and his parents included many other ceremonies in the lead-up that were also 3+ hours long each. For the wedding, the bride and groom didn't get to eat or spend any time with loved ones, since the entire time was them on the mandap with the priest.

I feel very strongly that I would not be okay with this for my own wedding, since so many of my guests are flying 25+ hours for 2 days. There are also several other ceremony events, and I feel like if they are all hours long, I won't be able to get to spend time with my family who are traveling so far (his family lives in India, my family lives in the U.S.).

Is there a standard duration of ceremony that is typical? My fiance feels the same way I do, but he still hasn't brought it up to his parents after 3 months of discussion (He just says "I won't let it be more than an hour" but still hasn't talked to them). I am worried he won't ever talk to them and it will just wind up being the same as his sister's wedding. If that's the case, it's fine, but then I would probably have a U.S. wedding as well so my family doesn't travel so far just to watch me on a stage for 2 days of hours-long ceremonies.

It's been listed 18 days.