u/Life_Giraffe_629

Been married for a little over one year with a new home.

Since engagement really, my spouse is very cold, less affectionate and we are connecting less and less. At first I thought it was because of decision fatigue and wedding planning stressors.

Deep conversations I try to have get a few words and then end. Going to bed at different times.

When we were dating we would spend hours talking and were so connected. It doesn't even feel like the same relationship.

I have brought up many times how I am feeling something is off, different and not the same and I am met with anger and mostly it gets turned around on me, never getting resolved. The things I bring up that I'm not happy with, never get changed.

I'm wondering if this is a normal part of a new marriage and stress that comes with a new move.

Tl;dr I dont even feel like I'm in the same relationship.

I am newly married and would love to know what is considered normal.

We have been married under one year and I am feeling disappointed every day.

I expected much more closeness, communication and time together. I'm finding we are on different schedules. I like to go up to bed earlier than he does. Would like to connect together before going to sleep. Also, same in the mornings. I get up earlier and he sleeps at least 2 hours longer than me. When he gets up he lays in bed on his phone instead of coming down to connect before the day starts.

I feel like he prioritizes being on his phone when he wakes up rather than spending the mornings or nights together.

I understand everyone has their own way of starting and ending the day but the issue is we haven't been able to enjoy time together.

Another problem - bought a new home and I'm spending so much time choosing paint, furniture, decor and rennovating. When he comes home to see the updates, he is very lack luster. Says it looks good but in a very passive way and says he just doesn't really care about this stuff. His reactions are always very flat and unenthusiastic and it's really bringing me down.

Tl;dr
I feel so deflated and constantly disappointed. I take all of this personally because to me, it means he values his time alone on his phone above spending time connecting with me. I have communicated this many times and there has been no effort to change or adapt.

Newly married and my husband has changed significantly.

He is much more cold and standoffish, less affectionate, much less loving and above all is extremely critical.

Almost everything I do he has a comment about how it's wrong or should be done a different way. Above that, he makes sarcastic comments in front of family and even strangers poking fun at me.

For example, we just purchased a home and he thought it would be funny to throw me under the bus in front of our title company employee at the same time boasting about how organized he is.

Our families have noticed it and even tell him to stop or for us to move on if I defend myself.

This is literally the opposite of who I thought I was marrying. I am so sad.

tl;dr

What should I do?

I got married 6 months ago and have recieved the professional photos, printed and gifted them to friends and family and I am still experiencing regret about how revealing the dress ended up being.

The cleavage in the dress with my undergarment and the cups sewn in made my chest show a lot of cleavage and now all the photos show so much cleavage and I feel bad about it.

I know I can have the photos edited after the fact but they have already been distributed to family. ​I want to feel beautiful and i feel it was a mistake showing so much.

Would love support!