u/LilBiatch365

I have been friends with this girl for about 5 years now and we're very close but lately she has been annoying me more and more. When we used to text, she was always a bit cold, but I knew that was just the way she was, especially since she was very friendly irl, despite some conflict occasionally.

Lately, we've been seeing each other a lot less since we both travel a lot, but when we text it's like I'm talking and she says something barely related. (Also, she has been self-victimizing a bit and acting pretty self centered and defensive recently but that's another issue)

Anyways so about a year ago, a snail got into my house and I decided to keep it. Since then, I have found 3 more that I have been raising.

Today, I found one of my snail enclosures empty with the lid partially off and the 2 snails in the enclosure had escaped. I found one but not the other so I've been kind of distraught and scared. I didn't tell anyone since I have been looking around for it.

Today, after I had spent nearly 2 hours searching, she sent me a picture of a plate of escargot.

I feel like that's very disrespectful, given that she knows how much I love snails not as food, but as pets. I feel like that is the equivalent of me sending her a picture of 50 dead dogs (since she has a pet dog) or 50 corpses

She doesn't know about the snail I lost, but I don't understand why under any circumstances she would think that was okay.

I always walk on eggshells around her usually since she is very sensitive about everything and I am quite direct. Maybe I should have asked what her intentions were but I just snapped in my mind. I called her and confronted her about it and she said it was fine so I basically asked "what's wrong with you" and she called me a b then hung up and blocked me. I know we will talk again later, probably soon since my birthday is coming up and she was invited and our conflicts never last long.

I think on any normal day, I would have been annoyed by the photo but only mildly. But today since my snail is probably lost somewhere and I've been angry at her for a while anyways, I think that was the last straw with her. AITA?

Edit : I wasn't MAD or angry about the escargot plate thing, I was CONFUSED and I overreacted. I don't have any moral objection to eating escargot in the first place. I was simply CONFUSED especially since she hadn't answered a previous message I sent before sending the picture. Also I didn't start the confrontation with "what's wrong with you", we started calmly and it escalated. I do like my friend and she likes me but sometimes we get on each other's nerves, which can happen in any relationship Also to clarify I don't just walk around on eggshells with her, even if she is very sensitive, I just know that I can be a bit harsh and so I try not to do that anymore

I have 2 snails, Edgar and Jafar, in my enclosure, both cornu aspersum, both adult.

Edgar is usually very quiet calm and slow while Jafar is the exact opposite

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Said goodnight last night, woke up in the morning and I couldn't see Jafar. I assumed it was burrowing (Edgy does that a lot) or under a hide he likes cause he's there everyday but turns out no

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I basically emptied out the tank (about 10cm height of soil) and can't find him

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There are no slime trails around and the enclosure was secure last night and this morning

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I think Jafar escaped, does anyone know if there's a chance he could come back??? If so under what conditions??