Most religions and NDE stories tell us that we're all one, you are me and I am you. If so, are we individually really supposed to find a partner (or several partners, not judging) or should we only love ourselves individually ? It feels pointless to me to be looking for a single partner when it means choosing only one iteration of me amongst billions of other me's.
I know the shadow is about projecting what we reject about ourselves onto others but in what way ?
For context, I often get triggered by a colleague who communicates in very different ways than I do and it leads me to literally not understand what they mean even though they're using words I perfectly comprehend. So the question I was asking myself is : does this mean that I reject my own inability to communicate in an understandable way or does this mean that I reject my own incapacity to understand what others are trying to tell me ?
The broader question would be : is our shadow about projecting our own behaviour or is it about projecting our response to that behaviour ?