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I have a question that I hope I might get some insight on. Sorry if its a bit TMI. Vaginal dryness obviously is a typical menopause symptom we battle, but what about the fluctuation of this moisture level? What exactly does it mean when we alternate between dryness and more typical pre menopause moisture levels? I am post menopause and have noticed I have recently had a higher, pre menopause, level of comport vaginally. I had originally suspected this was hormonal fluctuations, but I also think I should be close to my baseline by this point. Anybody experience this, know anything about this? It's something that's been going on for a few weeks and a strange shift in my body. I have not currently started my HRT. I'm back to wanting to wear a pantyliner or period underwear and I'm just confused.

Hi ladies, I've been having a rough go with this post menopause experience. I finally got my doctor to prescribe HRT. Last time I tried it, I was in peri and it was not successful. I'm scared to try it again, but despite for relief. So, I thought it might be beneficial to get some feedback from my fellow post menopausal sisters about your experience starting on HRT. I am neurodivergent and I know this adds another factor to my treatment. What should I expect? I'm almost 3 years post. Doctor has prescribed me .025 dotti patch and 100mg progesterone.

Looking for what safe bones your husky loves. Mine obviously love to chew. Nothing that is soft last very long. After a dental and finding some chipped teeth, I really need to find safe chewing options that give them a good long chewing session. They are relatively miserable if they don't get rhat chew time in. What do your huskies love that won't chip teeth or have potential health risks?

Ladies, I'm just at my limits. I don't know if I can take anymore. I don't know what to do or where to turn for help. I've just been thrown into a downward spiral that I am too overwhelmed to get out of. Menopause has my AuDHD raging and I've lost all control of my life with debilitating anxiety and anxiety attacks that stop me in my tracks whenever I try. Executive disfunction i have never experienced so badly. I just don't think I can take it anymore. It's absolutely ruined my life. I'd love to just lay down and sleep but I can't even sleep anymore. Any meds I take don't effect me like they use to so they provide no benefit to manage any of the chemical imbalances. It's like I'm not even taking them. I need help and support to get through this, but I absolutely have no one. I almost wish the depression would set in so I could just have the motivation to end this misery. That's how bad I've fallen apart and how hopeless I feel getting through this. Those who say it's not really that bad on here didn't get the extreme end of the Menopause nightmare. Some of us use to be fine and it has taken us completely down. Having neurodivergent brains before this completely changes the experience for us.

Burnout with no hope of relief. This is why audhd is so dangerous. When there are no resources to help get back on track, this is where life for us becomes so dangerous. If you can hire someone to come help, life coach, clean...great. If you got handed severe spectrum of the 2 without means, suicide is a legitimate concern. We suffer alone in silence until we can no longer. I'm so, so tired of the challenges, the noise, my executive disfunction and failures. If there is no out from this, there is no reason to remain in such distress. I simply don't know what to do, where to turn, how to find relief from my own head.

I am going to speak to my psych doctor about my options to file for benefits. This is just not sustainable. I've tried to go back to work, but that just wasn't successful. With my diagnosis, hormones and today's new life normal for ND trying to function in this society, I'm just not meant to succeed.

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I have thought about this for the past few years. I haven't wanted it documented with government for obvious reasons. I rarely even speak about anything outside of my safe walls. I'm very private.

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Does anyone have advice if this might be something that could makes my life just the slightest bit more manageable. I'm pretty useless and need to bring in some kind of value to survive. How far do I take this in my head? Do I just leave it up there or move forward with investigation.

OK. First post here. I'm fed the fuck up. This is legit the worst thing EVER. My life has completely fallen apart. I'm 3 years post and it isn't getting better. I gave myself some grace through the past 7 years of peri with the hope things would get better. Nope! Just worse.

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Why are there no services for us! Why! We populate the world and then no one gives a shit about us afterwards. There are no services to help us get back on track after life threw up under the bus. I'm not blessed to be able to afford a cleaner and organizer to come in and help me. But this is a legit need for a lot of us. We fall apart. We need help back up. No one understands. Sometimes I think meno should be a legitimate disability.

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I'm just so mad that so many of us just get left hung out to dry. We want so badly to take back our lives. We need resources beyond support groups where we can bitch it out together. I'd never wish this on my worst enemy. I just want to be seen, heard, understood and supported. All I can say is fuck this shit.

I am hoping for some recommendations from all you amazing pros. What are your favorite ultra sharp and precise nail cutters? I'd love to find a pair that has a light as well, but not sure if a quality pair will have that. One of my dogs has black nails. So it would go much quicker if I had a light shining through while clipping.

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OK ladies! I am looking for support, shared experiences and just general shared compassion for ourselves.

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Let's talk peri/post menopause. The masking becomes impossible, the world crashes in and skills are lost. I'm one of those unlucky ones that got hit so hard my life has basically fallen apart. All coping strategies I had to function enough to maintain a semblance of a normal neurodivergent life went out the window. I keep hoping that now that I'm a few year post menopause that the hormonal shit will end. But it hasn't yet.

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I had the even greater joy of starting this downward spiral when 2020 hit and people started working from home, my partner was one of them. He hasn't been back in the office since. So, my whole life has downward spiraled since then. I have no idea how to get back to a functioning mom and housekeeper. I'm burnt the fuck out. I have had one month in the past 6 years alone in my own home. Like many of us, that's the only way for me to decompress and relax and recharge. I'm at my wits end. I'm so far gone that I probably need a whole month to just sit alone at home and stare. Then however long it takes to get my shit together before facing anyone or anything outside my safe walls again. Obviously that's not possible.

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I'm trying to resign myself to the fact that this is the new normal, my new life. A cluster fuck of chaos. My head is like a bingo ball spinner and nothing is going to get better.

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I tip toe around the house because I'm scared to make noise while he works or get caught sitting down. I can't be productive because I can't feel safe because i am not alone. I can't use music or pod casts to drown out my head because I cannot tolerate having earbuds in. I'm jumpy enough as it is. With earbuds in I feel completely out of control of my environment and it's not like I can blast music when he's in meetings all day.

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I've started to have regular panic attacks and I'm just slipping. I voice my needs, but they don't get met. Primarily because people don't understand. I'm sick of the "you're in your own home" and "make a list" shit. I'm in full burnout. Burnout that has been burning out itself.

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Who here crashed when the work from home shit stuck around and you never got time alone? Why does no one understand. I have explained that even when I lived alone, I would need to shut all the windows and physically block the whole world out to reset. No single ability for the world to look in on me (not that i thought they were) . And that's when I was living with no one else. Now I have 2 kids and a partner. I have 2 sets of parents that make me feel guilty about any choice I make to get everyone out of the house. So I don't even consider that an option anymore. I already know how shitty they are going to make me feel about myself and my needs. I already know the lack of empathy and understanding and the blatant rejection of what I might need to be healthy because that isn't what they need.

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How do we get through this. My life is out of control. I need help in my house to get back on track. I cannot afford to bring in an organizer or cleaner. And even if I caved and said I have to find a way because it's necessary I am too embarrassed and ashamed to have people come in. Buy I damn well know. I'm not getting done myself.

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I've missed 6 years of my life, my kids lives and happiness being so messed up with no coping skills to get through this like how I got through things before the hormones basically said "fuck you".

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I just want myself back.

Hi all! I would appreciate some guidance. I'm incredibly paranoid about keeping my 2 huskies nails short (absolutely no clicking on the floor short) . I grind their nails once a week. My boy is white, so I can clearly see the quick. My girl has dark nails and is a little pistol, but we get it done.

I cannot understand why they seem to get longer despite weekly care. I thought I was getting them down to just before the quick each time. I have started trimming with sharp nail cutters to see if I'm not making it all the way to the quick. But still, they seem to be getting longer. I try to follow the diagrams and have watched a video about the 2 cuts to make to get the quick to recede. Any feedback is appreciated. This is one picture, how all nails are before the weekly care. Not sure if it helps or not.