u/Lost_Dragonfly_8868

I don’t normally get deliveries or pickup, but I have been bed ridden for awhile, so it’s the only option for my family for the next few weeks.

I have a question for online shoppers: If I pick a particular yogurt that’s in stock and chose to not substitute, but the note I leave on the item says ‘If expiry date is before XX/XX/XXXX, please do not provide’, does that get honoured and do I just get refunded?

My kids only like a certain brand of yogurt, but the last two online shops I have done, the yogurts exp date has been within 2 or 3 days, and half the tub goes to waste. I have msgd Woolworths about it, and they’ve said because it was in date when supplied, they can’t do anything about it.

So until I am back on my feet and can shop in person again, would this work?

My husband is an elementary school teacher. He doesn’t know about this sub, but I had to post on behalf of him and a student in his class.

Why? Just.. why..

Edit to add: It’s Bodie, it’s freaking Bodie. Poor little Beaudeigh.

Throwaway because of family on my main.

My dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2017. He was declining slowly until he had a stroke in 2023. Since then, he’s a completely different person. I worked in age care for 6 years, I thought I was prepared, but I wasn’t. I’m not. I feel so much guilt, because I miss him every day even though he’s right in front of me. He still remembers people he was close with before the stroke (me, my mum, my husband) but anyone after that, he doesn’t recall. I have kids 2 and under, and he doesn’t remember them, which breaks my heart every visit.

My mum is his full time carer, and I can see the toll this is having on her. She’s refusing help and says she can handle it, but almost every day she is calling in tears about some new development. Yesterday, he lost control of his bowels in public for the first time. She was not prepared, and my dad was so embarrassed and upset that he was openly sobbing in public. If you knew this man before this, you would understand that this is something he would never do. She got him home, cleaned him up and got him straight, but she is devastated for him. I don’t know what to do, and I don’t know how to help. He is in great hands, my mum is an RN and also worked in age care for over 10 years, but she is drowning and not listening to me.

I know this whole situation is very common, I’ve even witnessed it myself working in age care, but i cant seem to see the bigger picture with us. What do I do? How can I help? Is there anything I can say to her to make her understand it might be time for a home?