u/Low_Valuable_3234

I started officially dating my boyfriend (24M) two months ago, have been saying “I love you” for four months. We’re sort of long distance (4hr drive) and during this time we’ve had multiple conversations about communication. This was particularly because he got a new female housemate who seems to cross boundaries a lot (ex: she asked my bf and his friend for molds of their dicks… which I found out through his friend, not him). I went to visit him once and this female housemate asked us to go drinking with her and proceeded to tell their other housemate to call up my bf’s best friends to go. I was completely shocked by the situation because up until that point he had only communicated that he “sees her in passing” and “she sleeps there at night” (she had only been there for a week at this point). I was confused as to how she knew his best friends well enough to demand that they go drinking (which they did, we didn’t go, and they ended up doing molly with this girl too). Based on the communication I received she was just a housemate he hardly interacted with, not embedded/ interacting with his friend group. I basically explained that I need more information/ communication about social dynamics. Now he’s in Europe on a 1 week trip with his friends. He never sent me his itinerary which he said he would. He’s staying in hostels and hasn’t told me what it’s like at all. I saw he started following a new girl so I asked and then he told me that he met a group of students at the hostel in Lisbon (he had left there at this point) and that they might meet up again in Paris later in his trip so they exchanged info. I got upset because he never told me any of that. I’ve also expressed that I think getting a girl’s social media could be a grey area of cheating and that for me I don’t think he should be following girls he doesn’t know. I did crash out and sent him a ton of messages but it’s also because he ignored me for 8 hours. Now he wants to break up with me because I got upset. I just have the expectation that 1) my boyfriend doesn’t add girls on social media that he meets while on vacation and 2) he communicates about people he’s socializing with. Now he’s not texting me at all and won’t provide updates on what he’s doing for the remainder of the trip.

Was I asking for too much by wanting him to communicate that he met a group of students that he might meet up with again later? Is it too much to ask that my bf doesn’t follow women he meets on a Europe trip?