Image 1 — How much can emotional maturity in a couple overpower negative synastry aspects?
Image 2 — How much can emotional maturity in a couple overpower negative synastry aspects?

How much can emotional maturity in a couple overpower negative synastry aspects?

I’m orange, he’s blue! I recently (~3-4 months ago) started dating this man and have never ever felt safer emotionally in a relationship before. We can communicate SO freely, share similar views, call each other out, etc with no fear of the other reacting irrationally. We’re both in therapy and I feel we’re both very emotionally mature.

I know we haven’t been together for very long and that there will likely be issues down the line, but I was shocked when I looked at our synastry and saw that we had so many Saturn squares and other hard aspects. Do we think that emotional maturity can overpower such negative aspects? Thanks so much for your input!!

u/Low_birding_3984 — 12 hours ago
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Landlord has shown my apartment 13x in the last 3 months even though it’s already rented

I live in an apartment complex with identical units. I’m moving out in late July, and informed my landlord on 3/25. Since then, he has shown my apartment 13 separate times, often with barely 24 hours notice.

I have an aggressive dog, so I have to make sure I’m home for every showing. I take my dog outside and walk him around while they show the place, which is usually ~30 minutes. He has been accommodating of my availability thus far and has understood that I haven’t been able to host showings certain days due to work conflicts.

However, at around showing #10, I began to wonder why my place hadn’t been rented yet. I googled my address and saw that it was actually listed as “off market”. I also have pet cameras in my house that run 24/7, so I scrolled back through the footage and found a clip of my landlord telling prospective tenants that “this unit is rented, but every other available unit is identical”! Obviously I can’t use this recording as proof of anything legally, but it showed me that he is using my unit as a “model unit” even though it has already been rented. This feels extremely unfair, especially given that I have to rearrange my day in order for them to show my unit.

I recently had a big shift in my work schedule, and told my landlord that I won’t be available to host showings for two full weeks in July. I also told him that it was “my understanding that my unit has been rented based on a google search, so I’d prefer if they showed available units instead”. He responded that my unit has definitely not been rented, and has proceeded to schedule several future showings during the weeks I told him I will explicitly not be available. He has shifted his attitude to not being accommodating of my schedule at all, stating that he has a right to enter the property at all times with reasonable notice. Which is true, but I feel this is unfair since my unit is not for rent anymore.

I simply cannot have him enter my home while I’m not there, as my dog poses a bite risk, and I’m not leaving him crated for 8+ hours a day. He is insisting on showing my house anyways anytime he gives me 24 hours notice, and will not respect my boundaries.

Am I being unreasonable by asking for him to work with my schedule? I’ve already allowed them to show the unit 13 times. I even told him that I’m moving out two weeks early and that he can have free range of the unit once I’m gone. I feel like I’m backed into a corner. I’ve never had to endure more than 5-6 showings for a rental unit before, and this feels so excessive and rude, especially knowing that he’s blatantly lying to and using me. Thanks for listening, any advice would be appreciated.

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u/Low_birding_3984 — 5 days ago

First relationship in years that actually feels good

Edit- im blue, he’s orange!
This is the first relationship I’ve been a part of in YEARS that feels good. I like my space and have struggled with men being pushy and overbearing in past relationships. But this new guy is SO much more easy going. He also likes his space, and I feel very relaxed around him.

However, we are both very guarded. I feel really safe with him, but we both seem to be a little reluctant to dive deeper into talking about our feelings and perceptions. I want to make sure I’m creating a safe space for him to talk about anything, and I think I have so far, but I still feel like there’s some distance between us emotionally. But maybe we don’t know each other well enough yet? Or maybe we’re just not a match? We’ve gone on maybe ~10 dates over the last 6 weeks. Are there any major red or green flags in our synastry? Thanks so much ❤️

u/Low_birding_3984 — 2 months ago

Are either of these orchids save-able?

Both were potted in orchid bark soil in aerated orchid planters. Watered approx once a week/ once every two weeks. Both started looking shrively in the leaves, so I checked the roots and they were both very dry. So I transferred them to damp sphagnum moss in a terrarium (vented regularly). One has some blooms (first one) forming? But the bigger one (second) seems to be on its way out. Both have rotted looking roots and no new root growth. Can I save them? And what am I doing wrong? Thank you! Both were growing in east facing window, bright indirect light.

u/Low_birding_3984 — 2 months ago
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I need to hook up 4 of these fans to one Ac/Dc wall plug. Is this possible? What adapters would I need? Thank you!

I could also do 2 fans to one wall plug, but 4 would be ideal! If it’s possible to accomplish this without soldering that would also be ideal! Thanks so much!

u/Low_birding_3984 — 2 months ago
▲ 2 r/Tenant

I signed a lease in advance that doesn’t start until July. I put down a deposit but haven’t paid rent yet or occupied the space.

I have recently been harassed by the employee of a local gym that is right near my new house, and also found out that this man lives less than a mile from the new house. He knows my new address. It’s a complicated situation and I’m not taking legal action, so I won’t have any documentation. But I desperately want to back out of this lease. I found a new place that I can rent on the other side of town that I’d feel a lot safer in. But I can’t afford to lose the deposit I put down on this place.

Do I need legal documentation or a restraining order in order to file a lease break under the Illinois safe homes act? Is there anything else I can do? The lease was signed through a property management company, not private landlord. Thank you so much.

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u/Low_birding_3984 — 2 months ago
▲ 4 r/BirthChartReadingFree+1 crossposts

I have yet to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t obsessive (often to the point of manipulation), and extremely emotionally wounded. I’ve been stalked, guilt tripped to no end, and been manipulated into staying in relationships for much longer than I want to over the years.

I’ve since done a lot of inner work and have pretty much de-centered relationships from my life at this point, because I have yet to be in a healthy one. I’m kind of afraid of dating, honestly. But I think I would enjoy having a healthy, like-minded partner at some point in time.

I’m not in a rush and I know I’m not perfect, but I just cannot seem to attract someone who gives me the maturity and space that I need. Is there something that I’m missing in my chart that could point to why I always attract partners that smother me and become childish and obsessed? Is there anything I can do? Thank you so much!

u/Low_birding_3984 — 2 months ago