u/MaintenanceChance88

It’s been around 7 months post breakup . Our friendship + relationship lasted around a decade. I healed myself coming into face to face with my emotions and following no contact.
I relapsed once when I get to know that she moved on, replaced me with another relationship. Good for her.
Nowadays, things are fine with myself. My job is wfh and dont have social life. I have 3 friends whom I speak once or twice a month. Most of the time, I spend myself alone.

The problem, lately is I have been thinking about her a lot. Most of the things I do on daily basis are good things/habits I learned from her.
My thoughts are not related to getting back together but rather is about the genuine connections we made during the times we spent together. As time moves on, my brain is only thinking about the good stuffs and not the bad stuffs nowadays which is difficult for me. I just miss the connection between us. I cannot say my farewell to those feelings. Yet.

I told this to my friend and they suggested that getting back in another relationship will fix it as it did for them and likewise her.
I m introvert, I don’t spend much time on social media anymore. I know, I cannot wait for someone to approach me and I struggle in approaching people as I spent way too much time in solitude.

My doubt is,
Will new connections ( romantic) will fix the mind wandering thoughts about her?

How people find genuine connections? I don’t do bumble, maybe matrimony is the go?

Thanks for reading this. Have a good day.

I m in my late 20s. I badly want to go on a trip maybe thailand/vietnam maybe at the end of may or june. My friends already went there. I wfh, so I don’t socialise much, so asking in here.

I haven’t made any plans/itineraries. I just want a vacation. Let me know if anyone is interested so we can discuss or anyone is planning so I can join.

I have been thinking of going solo, but solo in internationals is not my cup of tea.